My wife says one thing all day long, making me bored with the house and bored with Tet.

(Dan Tri) - Just because of nothing, my wife can make all kinds of assumptions, making me really tired.

It's almost Tet and I'm not in the mood, so I'll just post my thoughts here to ease my mind. Maybe someone can give me some direction to solve my current situation.

The story is that my brother and I discussed pooling money to repair the family altar in the house in the countryside so that this Tet, the extended family would have a spacious and beautiful place to reunite, also as a gift to celebrate our mother's birthday.

I had agreed with my brother, but when I got home, as soon as I spoke, my wife immediately dismissed me, scolding me further: "You don't have any money, but you're still making excuses. The house needs all kinds of expenses for Tet, and I don't know where to get the money to cover them. You're so free, you even thought of repairing the house in the countryside. Mom lives with you and your brother, the main house is only used as a place to gather for worship, who will live there and repair it?"

Not only that, my wife also turned around and questioned me, asking how much money I paid my brother, where I got the money from, and whether I had a "black fund" or "red fund" hidden from her? Now I am in a dilemma.

My wife is too calculating, making my life really tiring (Illustration: iStock).

I had already strongly agreed with my brother to repair the church for my mother, but now he turned around and said no, it would be impossible. He would know right away that my wife was preventing me. In my family, no one said anything, but everyone knew my wife was strict.

By the way, my husband and I are not rich , but compared to our combined income, we are quite well off. In addition to the house we live in, we also bought an apartment for rent and have a car worth over a billion dong.

Saying that to show that our life does not have to worry too much about the economy. I myself come from the countryside, my family is poor so I am very enthusiastic and hard-working.

I have only one older brother and we are very close. Since my father died early, I have considered him as the pillar of the family since I was young. He knows that my wife is careful and strict. But if I told him that my wife did not agree to repair the family church to make my mother happy in her old age, he would probably have a different view of my wife.

If I take the role of a decisive man and deliberately decide to repair the altar for my mother, one thing is for sure, my wife will not leave me alone, and the family atmosphere will be extremely tense.

I did not want to celebrate Tet in such a miserable state. Thinking back, I was extremely disappointed with my wife's behavior.

I don’t want to mention it at all, but there are things I am very dissatisfied with about my wife. Usually, every year during Tet, my wife and I go back to our hometown and give each of our children 200,000 VND, regardless of whether they come from the paternal or maternal side.

Only last Tet, my brother's eldest daughter gave birth, I excitedly took out 500,000 VND to give to the child as lucky money. That made my wife angry, sulking, complaining that I had too much money, was too lenient, and gave a different amount of money to someone else out of nowhere.

I said that because my son was the youngest member of the family, no one could compare to me giving him more. But my wife told me that when my maternal side's child was born, she only gave him 200,000 VND as a lucky money gift. Why didn't I say anything at that time? Knowing that, she also gave him 500,000 VND as a lucky money gift, just like me now. After all, she just wanted to prove that I valued my paternal side more than my maternal side.

I find my wife's way of thinking childish. I am a man. I have never paid attention to how she spends money. When my wife gave lucky money to her grandchildren, I did not care how much each one gave, but now I bring it up to compare. It is all nonsense, and yet my wife and I are quarreling.

I don't like my wife's petty behavior and thinking, always comparing and calculating gains and losses, while I am always very reasonable, treating both sides of my family openly and transparently. Could it be that I am like her, comparing sensitive matters to "put each other down"?

Even when my wife secretly gave money to her parents, I knew but ignored it because I respected her privacy. Why couldn't she be generous enough to do the same?

I ask everyone, in the matter of repairing the family church, should I ignore my wife's opinion to fulfill my duty to my mother or listen to her for peace at home?

And what should I do in the future, how should I talk to my wife to make her understand and reduce negative thoughts, comparisons, jealousy to make the family atmosphere happier and more harmonious? Thank you everyone.

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