Things daughters-in-law want to say but are afraid to... confide in their mother-in-law

Experts suggest some ideas and thoughts that your daughter-in-law wishes she could tell you.

Not a copy of you

Don't treat your daughter-in-law like she's a carbon copy of you. You and your daughter-in-law are two different generations, she has her own personality, her own life experiences, her own ideas about how to maintain a marriage and start a family.

The daughter-in-law is not trying to compete with you.

If there are times when you feel like you are using your daughter-in-law to get your son's attention, her keen intuition can sense it.

Remember, family relationships are not a ranking contest.

Ask for your advice when needed

You have an irreplaceable position in the family and your daughter-in-law also appreciates you. However, be careful when giving advice. It is best to only give advice when she asks for it, especially in the early years of marriage.

Value your opinion (sometimes)

Your opinion matters to your daughter-in-law, but only in situations where she feels open to suggestions. Remember to ask if she wants your feedback or opinion before offering it.

Daughters-in-law have a unique bond with your children.

The love your son has for his daughter-in-law is a different kind of love than the love he has for you. Try not to feel jealous or like a third wheel in your children's relationship. Even if you feel that way, don't let it show.

Wish you were closer

If you notice a gap in your relationship with your daughter-in-law, you can easily take the initiative and reach out more. Make plans with your daughter-in-law or take the initiative to call or text her once a week.

An easy way to build a better relationship with your daughter-in-law is to understand her communication style. With this tip, you can figure out how to talk to her in difficult situations without coming off as... awkward.

Your compliments mean a lot to my daughter-in-law.

Your daughter-in-law may be feeling a little pressured by you and your opinion of her. In this situation, a compliment can be more powerful than a “magic bullet”, especially if the relationship has had some rocky patches in the past.

Daughter-in-law wants you to understand the difference

Instead of comparing or contrasting your daughter-in-law with you or your other daughters-in-law, enjoy her differences, and let her understand that you are trying to appreciate the things that make her unique.

There is no better feeling for a daughter-in-law than knowing that her mother-in-law is looking at her in a positive light.

The daughter-in-law wants you to know that everyone makes mistakes.

No one is perfect. Your son has his faults too. So if you get caught in an argument, don't take sides.

Wish for more respect

Respect really does go both ways. If you feel like your daughter-in-law doesn't respect you, show her respect first and see if her attitude toward you changes.

You can have comments about your daughter-in-law and son's lives, but after giving advice, let them be comfortable.

Take a step back and see if you have been doing everything you can to “scrutinize” your daughter-in-law. If so, you should reconsider because it will leave a rift in the relationship.

Daughter-in-law doesn't like it when you show up unexpectedly.

A simple way to nurture your relationship with your daughter-in-law is to call before you drop by to visit your children. Or, if she and your son are planning a wedding, let your children know you want to make an appointment or meet with a wedding planner instead of showing up unexpectedly.

Your daughter-in-law will be extremely grateful if you take the initiative to cultivate the relationship.

A relationship takes two people willing to put in the time and energy to grow together. If your relationship with your daughter-in-law is getting stale, find creative and new ways to make it fun again.

According to brides.com

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