To get married, my girlfriend asked me to hide a "shocking" secret from her parents.

(Dan Tri) - I know Thuy truly loves me and wants to move forward in the most favorable way possible. But as a man, I always want to hold my head high and live without having to worry or hide anything from anyone.

I am 28 years old, never married but have a child. This is the result of a drunken encounter between me and a friend. After she got pregnant, I offered to take responsibility, but she refused.

Because she and I were just normal friends, we had no special feelings. What happened was unexpected. She didn't want us to live with someone we didn't love because of the child. She chose to be a single mother, and we could discuss the future later.

Because we weren’t together, she chose not to publicly announce that I was the father of the child. I felt very guilty about this, knowing that what she had to go through was not easy. I could only silently provide for my daughter to the best of my ability.

Five years have passed, fortunately, she met someone who loved and accepted both mother and child. She got married last year. Her husband loves his stepdaughter very much. I listened to her story, as if a burden had been lifted from my heart.

My girlfriend said, as long as she accepts me, what other people think is not too important (Illustration: iStock).

Honestly, for the past few years, I have not been looking for or intending to get involved with anyone so that whenever she and her children need me, I am ready to appear. Now that she has a place to stay, I am looking for my other half.

I first met Thuy because of a little work-related thing, then feelings gradually arose. Thuy was beautiful, from a well-behaved family. Her parents both worked in the education sector, so since childhood, Thuy grew up in a rather strict environment. Thuy's youth was almost entirely devoted to books. In terms of love, I was her first official love.

At first, I hid the fact that I had a child from Thuy. But the deeper our love grew, the more unfair it seemed to me to hide this from Thuy. One day, when we were talking about marriage, I couldn’t help but confess that I had a child.

Of course, Thuy was surprised and shocked. But when I told her the whole story, and even let her meet my child's mother to confirm that I was right, she began to feel that it was acceptable.

However, Thuy had a request: If we got married, her parents must not know that I had a child from another family. We would still be responsible for the child.

As the eldest daughter, my parents have high expectations of Thuy in both work and love. That means they have certain standards for their son-in-law. If they knew I had a child from another family, they would not be able to accept it.

I know, Thuy truly loves me, wants to move forward in the most favorable way. But I am a man, I always want to hold my head high to live without having to worry or hide anything from anyone. What happened, whether right or wrong, I still want to face it frankly.

When I said that, Thuy burst into tears. She knew her parents better than anyone. She was afraid that she was not strong enough to fight and protect her love if her parents strongly opposed. She loved me and absolutely did not want to lose this love, for any reason.

Thuy said, in fact, she only needed to know and accept this, her parents didn't need to know. Later, when the two of them got married, if unfortunately everything fell apart, the most her parents would say a few harsh words in helplessness. We would live happily so that even if her family knew, Thuy would still be confident that she had made the right choice.

I found it really hard to think about it, feeling that it would be improper for me to hide such a thing from my parents. But I also thought that Thuy was right. Basically, as long as Thuy accepted this matter, it was fine, what other people thought was not really important.

Should I still keep silent like I have kept silent for many years so that our love affair can progress to marriage in the most peaceful way?

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