Not talent or hard work

Researchers point out that mental health and relationships have a significant impact on a person's success or wealth.

Harvard University professors (USA) conducted a study over 70 years, with the participation of 268 Harvard students and 456 people from the slums aged 19-90 to decode the "Mystery of a happy life".

The main observer and recorder of this study was Professor Robert Waldinger. From the data collected, he was able to draw out the factors that have a strong influence on a person's success and wealth.

Stable mental health

Harvard University researchers have developed “10 indicators of winners in life,” including one related to mental health that shows people with less psychological stress are more likely to succeed.

When talking about the concept of "health", it must always include two aspects: mental health and physical health. Focusing on only one aspect does not help people to be healthy. Many young people often have unhealthy lifestyles, often staying up late, causing their physical health to quickly decline. Mental health also has problems due to accumulated pressure and stress.

The story of American gymnastics legend Simone Biles withdrawing midway through the 2020 Tokyo Olympics surprised many people. Explaining her decision to withdraw, Biles said that during the competition she fell into a state of extreme stress, panic, and her whole body trembled. "It 's time for me to focus on my mental health," the American athlete said.

Biles is not the only athlete to have serious mental health issues that prevent them from performing at their best. According to psychologist Toni Martos, "the mind is like a muscle, you need to train it too."

Happy childhood

Harvard research shows that adult wealth and old age happiness are closely linked to childhood experiences. The researchers cite the data:

People who had good relationships with their siblings when they were young had an average annual salary $51,000 higher than those who had no connection with their siblings.

People with happy childhoods earn an average of $66,000 more than those who had unhappy childhoods.

People who are loved by their mothers earn an average of $87,000 more than those who are not.

In addition, if a person's relationship with their mother is not good, they are likely to develop Alzheimer's disease when they get old. Children who receive care from their fathers will have less anxiety and enjoy life more when they grow up.

This proves the influence of family as well as one’s childhood experiences on later career. A good childhood and a favorable growing environment will contribute to help children become more successful.

Find the right partner

One important indicator of success identified in the Harvard study was emotional relationships such as love and friendship.

Professor Robert Waldinger’s notes also emphasize that childhood experiences are not absolute. Even if you experience suffering as a child, you can still live a good life if you find “love” when you grow up. Waldinger gives the example of the life of Adam Newman (name changed), a former Harvard student.

Newman was born into a middle-class family and had an unhappy childhood, suffering from mental abuse by his parents. Newman was intelligent and had good academic achievements, but his mental and physical health were not good, he tended to act conservatively and had few close friends.

The turning point came when Newman married his college best friend. The harmonious marriage between the two changed him, helping Newman learn how to work in harmony with colleagues and hone his leadership skills, which led to a job at NASA. Newman constantly adjusted his behavior in social relationships. Even when his daughter was naughty, he did not impose on her the way his mother had taught him.

Kim Linh

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