Forming a 'bullying' group of 101 people: Accusing others is not enough, so they turn around and accuse each other

Many young people are core members of "nau troi" (bad-mouthing) chat groups, discussing others with great enthusiasm, but when they find out that someone is talking about them, it feels like heaven and earth are falling apart. And what joy does bad-mouthing bring that young people today love it so much?

Young people have many chat groups to "gossip" (badmouth) colleagues and friends... regardless of day or night - Photo: WHITE CLOUD

According to Mr. X.Hoang (32 years old, fanpage administrator), he has many chat groups updating information and "gossiping" about people around him.

"Who has the right to not let others talk about them"

Some of his acquaintances normally gossip in groups, but whenever someone says something about him, they make a fuss.

He expressed that no one has the right to prevent others from talking about them. "Only if you go to the forest or to a deserted island where no one knows, will they not talk. Especially if you can talk about others, why would you be upset when you know others are talking about you?

Even bosses are commented and evaluated by employees every day. Who are you that others can't "criticize" you?", he said.

Surfing the internet "to make fun" according to young people is fun, a relief when work is stressful - Photo: WHITE CLOUD

He had a group of friends, and he accused everyone every day. One day, someone in the group discovered that some of his friends were talking about him. They weren't making up stories or gossiping about him, they were just saying things like "he's been quiet lately, why doesn't he hang out with his girlfriend much, maybe they broke up...".

That friend then made a fuss. From then on, no one dared to say anything to him. And that person isolated himself from the group.

The surprising thing is that in other groups, this friend "reports" so many things and so many people every day. "You probably think you have the right to talk about others, but you are inviolable," he said.

According to Mr. Minh P. (29 years old, office worker in District 1, Ho Chi Minh City), gossiping about others is not a new phenomenon, it has always existed.

He has about 3 groups of "gossips" who are close friends. He absolutely does not gossip with his colleagues because he might change jobs, or he is afraid that his colleagues will betray him for personal gain. "Friends are long-term, colleagues are temporary," he believes.

"When 2-3 people or more talk, they tend to talk about one or a group of people, then make comments and criticisms," he said.

Chat groups and social networks now help this, like a tiger growing wings. He thinks that "gossiping" satisfies curiosity and gossip. Almost everyone has these two qualities. Like when there is a hot issue like sawing a bomb, jumping off a bridge... how many people gather to watch.

Besides, commenting on someone will make you feel like you are looking down on them. They will see that they are not as bad as the person being mentioned.

"Moreover, if there is any problem, young people will find a place to explain themselves. Or if their work or interests are affected, they need to find a group of allies to blame that person, to vent their frustrations that they dare not speak about publicly," he said.

"Cooking" is also… fun

According to Mr. X. Hoang, gossiping makes many people feel excited, and they sometimes don't run out of things to talk about all day.

Hoang thinks that gossiping is a human trait.

And he found that talking to communicate, get information, entertain… was fun. Especially in the office environment, every day and every hour there were so many things happening.

Sometimes, when things are going on, situations arise, and sentences can become ideas for creating content.

Hoang doesn't have a specific time for "cooking". Whenever there is information, his group will "cook" it. If we wait until we have free time to wait, the "ingredients" will be cold.

"Cooking during work hours is the most fun and effective. Because everyone is online and excited at that time... But in the evening or on the weekend, when there are not many people, if there are many things, it is not fun and not exciting," he said.

However, at that time, if the groups had hot news or good news, he would rush in to chat, "it would be a pity to miss it". Whoever was sleepy could sleep, whoever was awake could chat.

"Cooked" the wrong chat group

To get the news, Hoang often took screenshots and sent them to groups quickly. Afterwards, he deleted everything, not because he was afraid of being discovered, but because he wanted to lighten his phone.

I only keep the important ones, the less the easier it is to find. "If I want to find it again, I just go to the chat group with the search tool, it has everything saved.

"I have to have a good memory of which stories to talk about in which groups and at what times to save time," he said.

Mr. P. shared that other people usually spread the news to him. When he has free time, he reads the messages and joins the conversation.

Due to the nature of sitting in the office, using the computer a lot, exchanging work via Messenger, and gossiping groups are also on there, so it's convenient for him to read messages without being noticed.

On his days off, he prioritizes other things. But sometimes there is hot news, friends mention his name, or call him, so he joins in the conversation.

"Beat it up", once Minh P. made a mistake. He accidentally talked about a friend, and accidentally sent a message to the group chat that person was in. Then he went to brush his teeth and get ready for bed.

Unexpectedly, in the middle of the night, a friend called him back, telling him to check his Messenger. He hurriedly opened his phone and saw that he was chatting with the wrong group.

Luckily, the person who was accused seemed to have gone to bed early that night and didn't read the message, so he was able to recall it. "The recall feature saved me from a clear defeat. Because if the other person had read it, it would have affected our relationship."

Source: https://tuoitre.vn/lap-nhom-nau-xoi-101-nguoi-to-nguoi-khac-chua-du-quay-ra-to-nhau-20241113081409925.htm