I'm old and still get scammed out of money by young girls when dating through online apps

I'm 36 years old but still single. I urgently need to find a girlfriend and further consider marriage.

I work for an import-export company in Hanoi . I just finished paying off my small apartment so I don't have much money left, I only have about 400 million VND in savings.

My parents in the countryside are nearly 70 years old, always anxious and worried because I have never brought anyone home to meet them.

Seeing that I was busy with work and it was difficult to find someone suitable in the office environment, my sister guided me to use a dating app to quickly find a lover. At first, I was not very excited, but after talking to a few people, I noticed her.

She is 20 years old, working as a bartender at a bar on Ta Hien old street, Hanoi. The first time we met, I went to the bar, sat at the counter watching her work and chatted whenever she had free time.

She is a good-looking girl who knows how to make herself beautiful. She started working at the age of 18 so she understands life, is quick-witted and good at speaking.

I am old but I was cheated out of money by a young girl when dating through an online dating app.

After that, we had 2 more dates to go out to eat and to the movies. I learned that she was from the same hometown, her parents were divorced, her father had remarried. She didn't like the situation of a stepmother and stepchild, so she chose to live independently early. Every time we went out together, she was quite fair, if I paid for the meal, she was willing to invite me to the movies or have coffee. The more we interacted, the more I liked her and nurtured the intention to confess my love.

One day, she texted me asking to borrow money. The amount wasn’t much, only about 2 million VND. She said she needed to go back to her hometown to take care of her sick mother. Since the divorce, her mother had been living alone taking care of her elderly grandmother, so she needed to go back immediately. I didn’t think much about it, just transferred her 5 million VND to take care of the family. She thanked me and promised to pay me back someday.

On the due date, she said she couldn’t pay yet and asked me to extend the payment. I didn’t want to demand the debt because I thought of her family’s difficult situation. What I didn’t expect was that she asked to borrow more money, and for the second time with the same reason, I lent her 5 million VND.

The next time, she told me she needed living expenses but it was not yet payday so she wanted me to lend her money and would pay her back as soon as she got paid. After that, she told me she had just had a motorcycle accident and hoped I could lend her money for medicine and repair costs. At the peak, she asked me to borrow 20 million VND to pay for her mother's medical expenses. Just like that, the total amount she owed me was up to 80 million VND.

Even though she owed a lot of money and hadn't paid it back, I wasn't bothered because it was normal to support the girl you were dating. What made me sadder was that it was very difficult to meet her. She kept saying she was busy with work and had to take care of her family to avoid meeting her. Seeing that I couldn't meet her, I went to the shop where she worked to look for her, but the manager said she had quit for a while and didn't know where to work. When I got to her place of residence, she had already moved. Now, the only way to contact her is through social media.

I felt uncomfortable and boldly texted her about paying me, but every time I texted her she didn't reply, only answered my calls. She gave the excuse that she had gone back to her hometown to take care of her mother and was looking for a new job in Hanoi, and when things were stable she would pay me back immediately.

My friends all told me I was scammed, but I stubbornly refused to believe it. The amount of money she owed wasn't too big, so I didn't want to make a big deal out of it, still hoping to keep this relationship. I was afraid that if I asked for the money back "to the bottom of the barrel", she would lose all feelings for me. I thought that if she agreed to be my girlfriend, I would be willing to let her owe me.

But it turned out that it was just my illusion, because in the last contact, I realized that I had been blocked by her online and since then she had completely "evaporated", I had no way of searching.

I was both embarrassed and angry, more angry at myself for being stupid than at her. Maybe from now on, I won't dare to date online again.

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