3 times leaving the city to return to the countryside, enduring hardships on my own

Leaving the city to return to the countryside is a decision that requires careful consideration - Illustration: WHITE CLOUDS

The article Leaving the city to return to the countryside: Don't think it's only peaceful, not complicated, not tiring on Tuoi Tre Online received sincere comments and shares from readers.

Some readers told me that they had returned to the city after a period of leaving the city to return to the countryside. Some readers shared their experiences in preparing before deciding to return to the countryside to live.

3 times leaving the city to return to the countryside, facing a lot of pressure

"Going back to the countryside sounds simple, but it's not," reader Cancer began his story. This reader confided:

I also left the city to return to the countryside, then turned around and came back for the third time. when the age was nearly 50 then peace.

Back home, relatives near and far each asked a few questions. There was concern, but also blame and anger.

When I went to work far away, I rarely revealed any information about myself to my relatives. I only worked as a factory worker, with a salary of 5-7 million VND , and I had to be very frugal to have a little extra.

And in fact, when returning home to encounter the COVID-19 epidemic, Cancer readers encountered many difficulties.

"During the epidemic and illness, the little savings had to be spent. After more than ten years away from home, returning home was not much better off.

But everyone thought I was doing well, so they blamed me for being ungrateful in every way.

This reader confided that relatives do not know about the difficult times in the city, having to bear the hardships alone, not knowing who to turn to for help.

God bless you with good health... Thanks to this blessing, I am now doing okay and relatively adaptable.

So, wherever feels suitable and fun is fine. Don't force it .

Reader Q.Nhan shared that he has been back to his hometown for more than 2 years. He said: "Everywhere has its own difficulties and benefits. It is not difficult to return to your hometown to raise fish and grow vegetables. The most difficult thing is your mindset."

Many things to prepare before going home

Partly supporting the idea of ​​returning to the countryside to be closer to family and find peace, instead of trying to stay in the city with a salary that is not enough to cover expenses, reader Ngoc Nua shared that leaving the city to return to the countryside is a beautiful dream of many people in their 30s and 40s.

Ms. Ngoc Nua wrote: "No one really wants to live far away from their family and hometown. But there are rural areas where there is too little work to live a stable life with a decent salary. Not to mention the future of their children, their education, and their future development."

From then on, she believes that the most important thing to be able to leave the city to return to the countryside is a strong spirit. At the same time, we need a companion to share the joys and sorrows with us, to overcome the initial difficulties.

"Don't leave the city to return to the countryside to follow the trend. And don't think that life is better elsewhere. Wherever you live, you will realize that there are advantages as well as disadvantages," she said.

From his experience, Mr. Chanh shares:

If you want to go back to your hometown, the first thing you should do is find old friends there . They are attached to the place, they know more than us. And can support us.

I lived in Ho Chi Minh City since college until I was 35 years old . Nearly 16 years only got 2 university degrees and 2 practice certificates.

I returned to my hometown to start a business with nothing. At 35 years old, I was shallow-minded and relied on my own qualifications.

He gave advice, if anyone wants to go back to their hometown, it's okay, they must have at least 500 million VND in hand.

"If you don't work for someone else, start your own business. It will be discouraging at first, but after that, the profession will become stable. Remember, 500 million VND, but any business with capital only requires 50 million VND," he shared.

Analyzing the story of returning to his hometown, Mr. Phu commented: "Starting a business in the city is the dream of many people. But out of 100 people, only a few are successful.

Everywhere, the more money you make, the more you spend. That's the rule.

Now there are many factories in the countryside, there is a lot of work. So who stays and who comes back is each person's business.

Continue to look for opportunities in the city?

Thinking about leaving the city to return to the countryside, reader tran****@gmail ... exclaimed: "So complicated. Leaving the city to return to the countryside seems simple but it's not as simple as I thought."

Empathizing, Mr. Trung said that 10 years ago he also thought the same. However, he was a bit luckier because a "life partner" advised him to try to stay in the city to work.

He wrote: "Things are much better now than before. It's true that if you can't take care of yourself and are not financially independent, quitting your job in the city to return to the countryside is risky."

Ms. Chau Giang believes that not every home is a peaceful place. She shared: "I also had a not-so-peaceful childhood. After a few days at home, my family would quarrel."

Therefore, she realized that the author of the article Leaving the city to return to the countryside: Don't think that there is only peace, no complications, no fatigue, choosing to return to the city is correct.

Leaving the city to return to the countryside, besides adapting to life and finding a job, is also a matter of dealing with relatives and family members. Reader Cu Giai shared: "Experience shows that returning to the countryside just to attend the death anniversaries of relatives and neighbors is tiring enough.

If you are absent from a death anniversary, you will be considered a disgrace to everyone in that long-lasting party. In the countryside, people take this very seriously, no joke."

And you, what is the reason that makes you choose to stay in the city to live and work? If you want to return to your hometown, to your home, what obstacles and difficulties do you encounter? Please share your story with the email address hongtuoi@tuoitre.com.vn. Tuoi Tre Online thanks you.

Source: https://tuoitre.vn/3-lan-bo-pho-ve-que-kho-khan-tu-minh-chiu-dung-20240521180502497.htm