Just do 3 things right, life will be less difficult

The most difficult thing to decide in life is life and death, but one thing we still have the right to choose is how to live.

Here is what an 82-year-old man in China shared about how to enjoy life when going through the ups and downs of life: Old age depends on three things, not bothering children but also not being miserable.

I am 82 years old, in good health and have no illnesses. Since my wife passed away, I have been home alone every day.

My children have been married for a long time and have their own lives so they cannot pay attention to me often. At first I accepted it, but less than two years later, I felt very lonely, that feeling was really uncomfortable.

Then a friend introduced me to someone to be my companion. The process of getting to know each other was quite harmonious and enjoyable.

Three months later, we were living together. However, as time went on, we felt that the other person was not suitable for us, so we decided to end it amicably.

From then on, I stopped thinking about living with other people. Instead, I changed my lifestyle.

I no longer stay at home all day, but go out to have fun, travel or go fishing with some old friends in faraway places. During the holidays, I stay at home waiting for my children and grandchildren to come home to visit.

Before, my children were not comfortable leaving me alone so they wanted to hire a maid to cook and do housework, but I refused.

Now I am still nimble and can do anything, why hire a maid? What if the maid doesn't do it to my satisfaction? So I'd rather do it myself, I'm happy doing these things, and the days pass by meaningfully.

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I don’t lack money. I have 5,000 yuan (about 17 million VND) in pension every month, and my children also give me some living expenses. I don’t spend much, I don’t have anything to buy, so I save some money every month.

My friends are all jealous, saying that I live a happy life, have plenty of money to spend, and look young, not like an 80-year-old at all. They also ask me what my secret is to staying so young. I don’t have any secret, I just do a few things right so I feel good, and everything is going well.

First: Don't rely too much on your children.

I think this is very important. Some people after retirement often depend on their children, expecting them to take care of them. If their children do not take care of them, they will be sad and irritable, which leads to family conflicts. But I am different, I do not ask my children for anything because I know they are under a lot of pressure, just need to come home to visit occasionally. I will not stay at home all day waiting for my children to come home.

I make myself a schedule: wake up in the morning to exercise, at noon stay at home to clean the house, take care of plants, read the newspaper or do housework, in the afternoon go for a walk, then go to the market to buy food to cook, after eating I watch TV and practice calligraphy...

I think the elderly should be eager to learn, not think that they are old, have poor brains, and cannot remember anything. Absolutely do not think like that. Learning also helps the brain not to age quickly. Moreover, when the elderly are busy, they will no longer think about wanting their children to come back and keep them company.

Second: Psychology is the most important

Many elderly people are often upset, and even think about small things. They do not know where to vent their anger, so they keep it inside, which will affect their health over time. The mood and health of the elderly are closely related. If the mood is not good, how can health be good?

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Not only young people need to keep a relaxed mind, but the elderly need to do the same. Thanks to always keeping a carefree attitude, not letting anything affect my mood, my health is still very good. When I encounter unhappy things or people I don't like, I will not keep worrying about that thing or that person. I learn to let go of things that have passed.

People can’t live in memories forever. Why not do something fun and useful for yourself? That time is better spent exercising, taking care of your body, spending time on useful things, which are good for both physical and mental health, and also help you live longer.

Third: Must have retirement money, good people should be financially independent.

Don’t think that the elderly don’t need money, and don’t just rely on your children. Although money isn’t everything, having no money is not enough. We must always remember that having money in the pocket of the elderly is better than having someone to take care of them.

With money, you can do whatever you want, go out or buy whatever you want. Even when you are sick or have no one to take care of you, you can use your money to go to a nursing home or hire a maid. This will make you comfortable and give your children peace of mind.

Thuy Anh

Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/cu-ong-82-tuoi-song-mot-minh-khong-lam-phien-con-cai-chi-can-lam-dung-3-dieu-cuoc-song-se-do-chat-vat-17224120722284282.htm