5 things about children that wise parents will never reveal to outsiders

GĐXH - When parents sit together, it is inevitable to discuss children's problems. But there are children's problems that parents should not reveal to others.

1. Mentioning children's embarrassing things

There was a mother whose son was in 5th grade. One day, she looked through old photos and saw her son "wetting the bed" when he was little.

At first, only family members knew about these private photos.

Unexpectedly, during the parent-teacher meeting, this mother chatted with other parents and comfortably shared pictures of her son wetting the bed when he was little.

Then, this embarrassing image somehow spread throughout the class, the boy was teased by his friends to the point that he didn't want to go to school anymore.

The frustrating thing is that even though the child intended to drop out of school, the mother still felt like she did nothing wrong, she was just happy and it wasn't that serious.

In fact, this mother's thinking is very common in many families.

They think their children are still young and don't know anything, so they calmly tell others about their children's embarrassing stories.

However, children as well as adults have feelings of shame and self-esteem.

So, on this issue, parents must change their thinking, treat their children like adults, respect and understand, do not publicize, do not share their children's shameful things.

Many parents think their children are too young to know anything, so they calmly tell others about their children's embarrassing stories. Illustrative photo

2. Show off your children's excellence

Many parents often like to share about their children's achievements. For them, it is not only a source of pride but also a way to encourage their children to try harder.

However, this action does not bring any encouragement, and can even have a negative impact on the child.

The more outstanding the child, the less you should show it off to the outside world.

Many parents choose to immediately share on social networks whenever their children achieve good results, not afraid to show off everywhere about their proud child.

They do not know that showing off their children's achievements is unintentionally putting too much responsibility on their shoulders, making them always have to struggle.

Besides, bragging about your child's academic achievements can make other people and your child's friends look at your child differently and have less sympathy for him.

Peers may react strongly because they do not like you to be better than them, one of the reasons leading to bullying and violence in schools.

As a parent, don't take your child's excellence personally. After all, this is your life, there's no need to show it off for everyone to see.

Instead, gently encourage your child to understand that their efforts are always recognized by their parents.

That is the way to encourage spirit while still ensuring safety for children.

3. Children's money

Many parents like to show off their children's income to relatives and friends.

Behind this kind of vain bragging is often a desire for recognition and praise from others.

But when face to face, people may say they admire and praise but behind their backs they may be jealous or criticize them because of their boastfulness.

After all, no matter how close the relationship is, you should not show off your children's money and assets because this can cause unnecessary problems, such as being gossiped about behind your back, attracting others to borrow money...

For truly intelligent parents, having promising and capable children is a blessing, not something to brag about to others.

On the other hand, people who talk about how much money their children earn are mostly unclear about the purpose of what they are saying and indirectly cause trouble for their children.

4. Do not mention your child's plans and dreams.

A mother in China asked netizens for their opinions online, saying that she only told her relatives about her daughter's plan to pursue a master's degree.

She did not understand why when relatives asked about her child's future plans, her child showed such a resentful and angry attitude.

Actually, the reason is very simple, just put yourself in the girl's shoes, we can understand what she is going through.

Studying for a master's degree was a lot of pressure, she didn't expect her mother to tell her relatives about it.

As a result, within 2 days, almost all of her relatives at home knew about the incident. Relatives called her one after another, some asking about her condition, some giving advice.

During that time, she was busy with many things, and had to deal with questions and calls from relatives.

Sometimes a "accidental comment" from parents in front of outsiders can put a lot of pressure on children.

In fact, when parents tell others what their children are doing, it puts a lot of pressure on their children, because many things may not be successful based on hard work alone.

What parents should do is not tell others about their children's plans. It's best to let everything happen quietly. When success is achieved, let everyone know.

In fact, when parents tell others what their children are doing, it puts a lot of pressure on their children. Illustration photo

5. Children's relationships

When your child reaches a certain age, he or she begins to think about marriage, a major life event.

Love is one thing, it takes a long journey for both to get to marriage.

Many parents often brag about their children's love life. If their child's lover is in good condition, they will brag about it to everyone.

This can cause unnecessary trouble in your child's love relationships.

Children will also lose freedom in love and relationships because they receive a lot of attention, expectations, and comments from everyone.

Whether their children are in love or married, parents should not tell too much about their daughters' private love affairs. This is a way of respecting their children and showing the parents' foresight.

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