My husband asked his father to buy a house in his name as his personal property.

When getting married, to avoid conflicts, husband and wife can discuss and agree on a number of things such as common funds, separate funds, spending, housework, and child care - Illustration: QUANG DINH

The story when shared on social networks recently immediately attracted the attention of many people.

Is the wife greedy or the husband selfish?

The woman shared that the couple had been married for more than 2 years. She stayed home to take care of the children because her husband had started his own company. A few months ago, they were talking about buying a house. She accidentally overheard her husband on the phone asking his father to put the title in his name.

"I didn't dare say anything because I thought it was his own money, and if he wanted to make his parents happy, it would be okay to let my father have his name on it. I reassured myself like that."

However, the girl collapsed when she discovered that her husband was following the advice of his friends, letting his parents own the house and then transferring it to him in his own way. That way, the property would not be related to the wife even though they were still married.

At this point, she made a fuss, and the house purchase was postponed. The wife cried, the husband also apologized, comforted her and... took her shopping to apologize. The girl was still sad and could not forget her husband's behavior.

There are many opinions, most of which believe that the husband's thoughts and actions are too selfish and calculating with his wife when he listened to his friend's instigation, secretly asked his biological father to register the property and then transfer it to him as a gift from parents to their children. Thus, if successful, the house that the couple intends to buy will be considered the husband's separate property even though it was purchased during the marriage.

Until now, the most important thing is whether the husband will take her to buy a house and have both husband and wife's names on it or not, is unknown.

"Children are shared property, but assets acquired after marriage are claimed to be independent," a netizen said in frustration.

Some other opinions say that the wife is greedy, wanting to take the property while she did not contribute anything, the money to buy the house was earned by the husband's labor, he can use it however he wants.

Should have clear agreement when establishing common and separate funds

There is an old saying "what the husband owns, the wife's work". In married life, both husband and wife have the responsibility to contribute, in one way or another.

In this case, even though the wife does not work, she contributes by staying home to take care of the children, doing housework, and managing the house. It cannot be said that she does not contribute anything, just waiting for her husband to support her.

Sympathizing with the wife in the article, another wife bitterly recounted her own situation. After getting married, her husband started a business and failed many times before building a company with enough income to survive. She stayed home to take care of the children and returned to work when the child was two years old. Then the pandemic hit, plus her child started first grade and had some problems, so she had to quit her job and stay home with the child.

At the end of last year, she planned to go back to work after Tet, but the couple had problems and decided to divorce. Their common assets included an apartment the whole family lived in and a car. In addition, the husband had secretly bought some land with his siblings, but his name was not on it.

This man also helped his brother-in-law pay off several hundred million in gambling debt and did not ask for it back. During their marriage, the wife also contributed 100 million VND of her own money to help her husband build a house in the countryside for her parents-in-law.

When they divorced, the wife raised the children, but her husband refused to divide all the assets, only giving nearly half the value of the apartment.

"My husband said he earned all the money, I didn't work much. He said the land wasn't in his name so even if I went to court I wouldn't get any.

I know that if I wanted to fight, I could hire a lawyer, but I feel so disappointed in that person. I don't regret paying off the debt to the gambler, but with my wife and children, I have to calculate the pros and cons like that," the wife shared.

From the story in the article, many opinions say that both husband and wife can have separate funds and common funds, which assets will be considered common assets, depending on the agreement of each family.

However, before deciding to get married, the spending plan, financial management, housework and childcare should be clearly discussed by both parties. A commitment can even be made to increase certainty, as well as prevent risks for both parties.

What do you think about the situation where a husband/wife asks their parents or siblings to register their assets in their name so that they don't have to divide them if they divorce? Should a husband/wife set up a separate fund without letting the other know? Should the husband/wife who stays home to take care of and educate the children so that the other can take care of the family finances be considered as an achievement, or even a salary?

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