3 behaviors of parents that unintentionally sow 'evil seeds' in their children

GĐXH - Experts say that children being unfilial is entirely due to their parents' "cultivation". Parents' inappropriate way of educating them has left "scratches" in the children's souls.

Below are 7 daily behaviors of parents that spoil their children:

1. Parents spoil too much

Many studies have shown that many rebellious children grow up with childhood trauma that their parents do not know about.

For others, parents easily compromise and indulge their children over and over again, gradually making them learn how to win arguments with their parents.

For example, the child cried and asked his father to buy that game even though at first the parents did not agree but later he was easily compromised.

In recent years, with the advent of the concept of "family education", many parents have become more meticulous and thoughtful in caring for their children.

But this excessive care and pampering often makes children too dependent on their parents, lacking independence and emotional depth, making them prone to rebellious, stubborn, and disrespectful behaviors.

Therefore, when caring for and raising children, parents need to avoid excessive care and pampering, giving their children a certain amount of freedom and space to develop.

But this excessive care and pampering often makes children too dependent on their parents, lacking independence and emotional depth, making them prone to rebellious and stubborn behaviors. Illustrative photo

2. Dad is always angry

Cambridge University in the UK once conducted an experiment on the relationship between genetics and personality.

Accordingly, the mother directly influences the child's intelligence, while the child's personality is greatly influenced by the father.

If a child has a gentle father, he will learn to communicate well, but on the contrary, if he has a hot-tempered father, he will also become aggressive, always solving everything with violence.

Therefore, fathers should guide their children to control their emotions. Know how to "direct" their anger with warm, tolerant words.

A father who can control his temper well can teach his children how to manage their emotions. 99% of a child's success comes from 1% of the father's change.

If the father has a hot temper, the child will also become aggressive, always solving everything with violence. Illustration photo

3. Parents like to brag

Many parents like to brag about their money and power in front of their children. This can easily cause their children to absorb a selfish mindset.

Such types of parents cannot raise filial children, and are more likely to create negative behaviors in their children.

That is the cause of children's unethical behavior, making them lazy and more likely to cause trouble.

4. Parents lack time to talk with their children

The transition of social roles, the dual pressure of work and family responsibilities have caused many parents to ignore the importance of being with their children, lacking the time and patience to listen to their children, understand their confusions and needs.

And if parents do not communicate effectively with their children, children can easily be led astray by those around them, have negative thoughts about family and school, easily rebel and have difficulty understanding others.

Therefore, parents need to maintain effective communication with their children, try to understand their needs and inner state, and educate and correct them promptly if abnormalities are detected.

5. Comparing children with others

Sometimes the purpose of comparing your child with other children is to stimulate a competitive spirit, pushing them to overcome their own limits to achieve more success.

However, no two children are exactly alike. Each child has talents, interests, and abilities that develop at different rates.

If they have to accept comparisons, children will become self-conscious and always feel inferior, develop resentment towards others, and this will also affect their self-esteem.

6. Parents discipline too strictly

The opposite of indulgence is disciplining children too strictly, using violence.

Many parents still think "spare the rod and spoil the child", even getting used to educating their children with beatings and harsh scolding.

Parents think that this method is good for children's development, helping them to be more obedient.

However, violence will cause children to rebel. They easily develop anxiety, stress, fear and other negative emotions.

This affects children's physical and mental health.

Violence will cause rebellious psychology in children. Illustration photo

7. Parents do not follow social ethics

Parents are always the mirror of their children, before teaching their children, teach yourself. Children always have the habit of looking at their parents' behavior to imitate. The "fruit" of the child's present is actually planted by the parents.

For example, if you want your children to be polite to you, parents must be polite to their grandparents. If you want your children to be polite in public, parents must know how to be considerate and behave properly in crowded places.

Whether consciously or unconsciously, children learn more from what their parents do than from what they say.

Parents must always remind themselves to obey social ethics and restrain their own behavior. Only in this way can they have a well-mannered and well-loved child.

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