You don't deserve to be here...

The son-in-law posted the story online, causing a heated debate. Who is the pitiful and blameworthy person in this story?

Mother-in-law demands back 100 taels of gold loaned to build a villa when prices are at their peak

A 35-year-old man named Qin from Xinjiang, China, posted his own story on Weibo, causing controversy. Outsiders defended his son-in-law, while others blamed his mother-in-law and wife. It is unclear who is right and who is wrong in the above story, both emotionally and logically.

My mother-in-law demanded the return of the gold she lent me 10 years ago when the price of gold increased to about 28,000 yuan/tael (nearly 100 million VND). A record high! But this was nothing compared to the secrets behind it that my mother-in-law kept hidden. My wife was completely oblivious as if she didn't know anything. I wanted to kick her out of the house immediately... I was extremely hurt to see my feelings and efforts over the years being taken advantage of and despised like that.

Mother-in-law lends gold to daughter and son-in-law. Illustration photo.

The two used the borrowed gold and their savings to build a villa. Illustrative photo.

The story is that in 2015, after my mother-in-law heard that my husband and I intended to build a house, she proactively took out all the gold she had saved, about 100 taels, and gave it to my wife. She said that she did not need to use this gold, and lent it to my husband and I, and that we could pay it back whenever we had it, so she did not pressure us. My wife had a piece of land when we got married, and my mother-in-law told us to give it to her.

I was very happy and grateful to my mother-in-law. That was also part of the reason why, after the house was built, I took her in and took care of her wholeheartedly.

We planned to build a big garden house because I had about 2.8 million yuan (10 billion VND) - including our savings after 5 years of marriage, loans and my parents' money. However, when I received 100 taels of gold from my mother-in-law, and received advice from my friend who studied architecture, I decided to build a grand villa. That was also my dream when I was studying at Harbin University of Technology.

Then we built a villa. After the completion of this family property, my wife gave birth to our third child. I wanted to earn more income, both to pay off debt and provide the best life for my family, so I accepted the company's transfer abroad to be responsible for supervising the construction. I still went home, but only for a few months or on holidays. Every day, I "warmed up" our relationship by contacting by phone. I still regularly sent money and gifts to my mother and wife, and provided for my sister-in-law to go to university,...

On the contrary, I leave all the housework and children to my wife. Because I am too busy, and I also trust the people in the house.

At the end of 2024, I will return home to work, because the projects there are almost stable. And I also want to return home, because it has been nearly 10 years since I worked away from my family, away from my wife and children, and now the economy is much more stable. My wife, in the past few years when the children have grown up, has also tried selling online, and has some income.

My mother-in-law has a pension, money my family gives her, but she can't save much because her daughter - also my sister-in-law - studied for a master's degree, graduated but couldn't find a job, but she also has a competitive personality, asking her mother to buy her everything from clothes, designer handbags to cars and houses.

I just found out about this too.

In the past few months, my sister-in-law has been coming to my house quite often. Every time she comes, she goes to my mother-in-law’s room and talks for a long time. However, I was busy with work so I didn’t pay much attention until last week evening, after dinner at the beginning of this week, my mother suddenly said that she had something to say. That was: “I want to get back the 100 taels of gold I lent you guys”. I was stunned…

Mother-in-law wants to get back 100 taels of gold whose price has reached its peak. Illustrative photo.

Of course, if you borrow, you have to pay back, but I'm not ready yet, and most of all, why are you asking for it at this time, when the price of gold is at a record high, up to about 28,000 yuan/tael of gold (nearly 100 million VND).

So where would I get the money? For the past few years I have been working hard to take care of my family, including my mother-in-law. Now all three children are studying at international schools which is also very expensive.

My mother-in-law was so unreasonable that she forced my husband and I to pay in gold, all 100 taels at once. No matter how much I begged her to delay, she still refused. We argued back and forth until suddenly my mother-in-law blurted out that she wanted to use the gold as a dowry for her second daughter - my sister-in-law.

Not stopping there, I was even more shocked to know that the land on which my husband and I built this huge villa was still in my mother's name. If we did not return the gold on time, she would transfer the entire property to her second daughter.

The son-in-law was so angry that he chased his mother-in-law out of the house: The argument still has no end.

Too cruel. Doesn’t she feel guilty when she says that? Where did our family go to live and where did they get the money to pay 100 taels of gold at once? I feel like I’ve been cheated after 17 years of being a son-in-law in this house and 10 years of working far away, supporting my wife’s family, and now being treated so cruelly like this. Turning to my wife, she could only cry. Honestly, she was just an adopted child, but she always considered her as her real mother. She also treated us very well so I never doubted her.

My wife said that when she borrowed the money, she did not specify the repayment date because she never thought that her mother would suddenly ask for the money. The same thing happened with the land we are living on. She just thought that it was her mother so she should let it go. Oh my god, there is no greater foolishness than this. My mother-in-law is really too much. She changed her attitude completely, determined to get it back no matter what, even though my wife cried until she almost fainted.

The house, not only is the sweat and tears of my wife and I, but also the dream of both of us. Living in a villa, but no one knows what we had to go through to get to where we are today. Perhaps, I think my mother-in-law should understand a little, but she is so heartless.

Too angry, I packed my things, dragged my suitcase and chased my mother-in-law out of the house, despite her crying. I even called the neighbors over to see that I was unfilial. No matter what people say, you have to be under the blanket to know if it has lice.

The son-in-law is in great pain. Illustrative photo.

I also told my wife straight up so she wouldn’t feel guilty: “She doesn’t deserve to be here, facing you and our children. For the past 10 years, we’ve taken care of her every day. For the past 10 years, I’ve traded my children’s childhood, the days away from my family, to make money. I’m tired, I’m miserable. And now you’re telling me to take it all away like that. I’m like I don’t have a mother like that.”

But my mother-in-law did nothing to keep her calm. She kept dragging my sister-in-law over to demand land and gold. I was going crazy. I did nothing wrong. My family paid for the construction. She said she would return the gold when she had it, but now she is demanding it urgently when the price of gold has increased to a record high. Then give her back the money she has spent all these years living in my house. The money I sent her every month, the money she spent every time she went to the hospital,...

Our relationship is now in ruins. Yesterday, she threatened my husband and I that if we don't pay, she will call the police.

After the article was posted on social networks, it quickly received a lot of attention from netizens. Many comments argued about who was right and who was wrong in the above story. Because, each person has their own suffering. The problem of borrowing gold, land or villas cannot be solved on the basis of emotions, and even involves the law.

“The mistake here is that we are putting too much emphasis on emotions. Both the mother who lent us gold and the child who borrowed it were the same. They were too lenient and indecisive, so now they have lost both love and loyalty. Of course, if you borrow, you have to pay back, but wouldn’t it have been better if they had set a specific time? Now she is asking for it back, it’s not wrong, it’s just not appropriate. At that time, she gave us 100 taels of gold at once, so why should we split it up and pay it back?

We cannot mention letting the mother-in-law live with, take care of her or give her money because that is voluntary and also part of the children's responsibility.

Then there is the matter of the villa and land. I don’t understand how you could build a house without having the red book in hand from the beginning. But on the contrary, your mother is clearly wrong, she asked for the gold and now she is asking for the house and land too, too bad”, ... is a netizen comment that attracted a lot of interaction.

Everyone agreed to advise the son-in-law to find a suitable solution, not to speak hastily and lose his mind, such as: hiring a lawyer, sitting down and discussing with his mother-in-law...

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