Mother-in-law hospitalized due to traffic accident, I suddenly became a sinner just because I took my daughter shopping for clothes on her birthday

Don't turn adult conflicts into problems that affect children.

Life sometimes brings unexpected ironic situations, misunderstandings can arise from unexpected places.

In the family, each member has their own position and feelings, but sometimes unfortunate events make the distance between us become further apart, even causing serious misunderstandings.

However, when life has many problems and many things to solve, we should live in a way that makes it less difficult, do not turn small things into big problems and then bring them to make each other suffer. Especially, do not turn adult conflicts into problems that affect children.

The past three months have been a really tough time for my family, my mother-in-law got into a serious traffic accident. At first, the whole family was mentally prepared that she would not survive, but luckily, gradually everything has been fine.

However, the treatment will last for several months depending on her health condition. At this time, the children's job is to take care of her. My husband is the eldest son, so he has taken on most of the responsibilities, and his brothers only have to support when my family cannot be present. My husband and I also take care of all financial matters and do not let them spend a single penny.

My mother-in-law is completely fine now. Only her leg is still in a cast, so it slightly affects her movement. Otherwise, she can do everything.

A few days ago was my daughter's birthday, I told her that this year there was a lot of work at home so I would probably just take her shopping for some new clothes and then I would take her to eat whatever she wanted. My daughter is a good child, not demanding so when I said that she happily agreed right away. I also knew that my mother-in-law was in the hospital, and the housework was busy so I had no intention of organizing a bustling or noisy party. Although in fact if I held a small birthday party for her it would probably be wrong but I would make it up to her later.

But somehow my sister-in-law accidentally saw my mother and I going shopping and eating in the mall. And just that very normal thing from her mouth turned into my mother and me going out to celebrate because my grandmother had an accident.

It is true that my mother-in-law and I do not get along, but things go together. First, I always fulfill my responsibilities as the eldest daughter-in-law, even if my mother-in-law does not like me, she has to admit this. Second, no matter how much conflict I have with her, I have never taught or incited my children to hate her. Yet my sister-in-law has slandered me and my children like that.

Since I became a daughter-in-law, it is not because I am afraid of anyone, but because I love my husband, I always try my best to maintain family harmony, always try to sacrifice and tell myself to sympathize with the times when people cannot control their emotions. But sometimes, my silence and patience are the root cause of even more serious conflicts.

Actually, I didn’t want to take it to heart because my sister-in-law’s words didn’t reach anyone’s ears. My husband understood his wife very well, and my mother-in-law’s recent hospital stay was enough for her to know what kind of person I was. So when she said those unreasonable words, my mother-in-law just sternly told her daughter not to talk nonsense.

But I find it very annoying when there is so much work at home, if we don’t support each other, we still have the energy to create more problems for each other. And then drag my daughter into it too. I should have just kept quiet and let it all go, but if I keep quiet, people will think I’m easy to bully!

So I texted my sister-in-law and told her straight out that if we don't like each other, then let's not bother with each other. I don't want anything to do with her, so she should leave me and my children alone. Don't let my temper flare up and we can't even look at each other anymore.

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