Have you ever just quickly said "good job" and... stopped?

(Dan Tri) - American psychologist Becky Kennedy said there is a type of praise from parents that is counterproductive, causing children to feel discouraged and lose their motivation to try.

Has your child ever gotten a high score and excitedly bragged to you, but you just quickly responded, "You did great," and left it at that?

This seemingly harmless situation can have a negative impact on your child's psychology. If such situations continue to occur, your child will feel discouraged and lose motivation to try harder.

Parents should help their children gradually develop self-confidence, so that they gradually learn to recognize themselves (Illustration: iStock).

When praising children, parents need to say more than a short compliment. Simply responding with “good job” will make the child think that the parent is not excited about what the child has just excitedly shared, perhaps the parent wants to quickly end the conversation with the child.

To show your child that you are interested and excited about what they share, ask more questions so you can go into more detail with them. This will show your child that you are truly interested and excited about what they share, and that your praise is sincere.

In addition, parents asking more questions will emphasize the positive aspects of the story, making the child want to try harder in the future.

In addition, when children truly feel the care and sincere praise of their parents, they will be nurtured with confidence. This is very important for the child's psychology in the process of growing up.

When parents praise their children in a detailed and specific way, it will help them to be more confident in their own abilities. Praising children in a short and concise way does not mean that parents are not sincere. However, giving detailed and specific praise, acknowledging the strengths of children is a very educational compliment for young children.

Parents should help their children gradually develop self-confidence, so that they gradually learn to appreciate themselves. When children have confidence and know how to appreciate themselves, they will no longer wait for compliments from others.

Children who always wait for praise from those around them to feel happy often have weak mentality, are easily worried, stressed, disappointed...

Self-confidence and being able to see yourself fairly and objectively are very important skills as children enter adulthood.

Source: https://dantri.com.vn/giao-duc/ban-co-bao-gio-chi-nhanh-mieng-khen-con-gioi-lam-roi-thoi-20250127004057824.htm