If I had asked for money in the past, I would have been smart and wise enough to say this!

Mr. To, China, is 65 years old this year, has a son over 30 years old. His son has a stable job, got married 5 years ago. When his son bought a house, Mr. To and his wife paid 2/3 of the money in advance, the rest the children paid themselves.

The agreement was made, but his son always borrowed money from his parents to pay off the house loan periodically. He said he borrowed money, but he never paid it back. Mr. To and his wife were also hesitant to ask for their son. After that, his son often asked his parents to babysit him, then asked them to buy this and that, all expensive things, but never sent money. Not only that, many times Mr. To and his wife took their son to school, when the teacher reminded his parents that they had not paid the tuition, they took out money to pay.

Last month, Mrs. To fell ill and had to be hospitalized. At this time, Mr. To discovered that his son had drained almost all of his savings over the years. When Mr. To called his son to contribute more money to his mother's hospital bills, his son tried to evade, saying that he was having a hard time lately.

"Mom and Dad still have monthly pensions," his son replied.

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After spending almost all of his remaining savings to pay for hospital bills and buy nutritious food for his wife, Mr. To thought a lot. In just a few days, he became very thin. Having only one child, Mr. To loved his son very much. However, instead of training his son to have good qualities, to know how to live independently and be responsible for his family, he and his wife pampered him, lavished him with money, unintentionally encouraging their son to have the habit of "nibbling" on his parents.

In fact, parents want to use money to help their children as much as possible, but helping too much is like destroying their children's wings, making them never independent. Parents love but cannot protect their children forever, if they spoil them too much, it will not only harm the children but also the parents.

Looking at his current situation, Mr. To choked up, saying that if when his son asked for money, he would have known how to refuse, asked him to be independent, work hard to take care of his own family, and meet his own personal needs, then perhaps his old age would have been very peaceful and leisurely.

In fact, many parents do not have the heart to refuse their children, because they think that refusing is cruel to their children. However, educating children sometimes requires "cruelty" in many aspects. "Cruelty" sometimes shows the foresight of parents and the love that parents have for their children.

Regardless of whether parents have money or not, they should try to be frugal in their later years and not spend too much money unnecessarily on their children. Money should be used to help their children grow up and support themselves when they are old. This is the best way to use money and the wisest way to raise children.

Parents who do this often will lower their children's IQ.

Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/o-tuoi-65-vo-chong-toi-kho-so-khong-yen-vi-con-cai-gia-nhu-ngay-xua-con-xin-tien-hay-thong-minh-sang-suot-ma-noi-cau-nay-172240322143657633.htm