Father is a senior judge who sent his son a shocking message.

GĐXH - At his son's high school graduation, he came as a parent. Instead of flowery words, he wished his son: "From now on, I hope you will not be treated unfairly."

John Roberts, born in 1955, is currently the Chief Justice of the US Supreme Court. He once "caused a storm" with a very different parenting principle: He does not wish for his children to have only good things, but wants them to experience many levels of suffering, loneliness, betrayal... in life.

In his 2017 speech at his son Jack's high school graduation from Cardigan Mountain, a boys' boarding school in New Hampshire, John Roberts surprised many when he opened with the words: "Usually, commencement speakers wish you good luck and all the best things in the future. I won't do that. And now I'll tell you why."

Mr. John Roberts, Chief Justice of the United States Supreme Court

In the opening, Mr. John Roberts said: "I am very sorry to tell you that the happiest and most comfortable times of your lives are about to become the past...".

The Chief Justice began his speech to the astonishment of his young, inexperienced students. The children were astonished because what they expected was to wish him good luck and hope for the best in the future, but he did not, and here is why:

"From now on, I hope you will be treated unfairly, because only then can you feel the value of justice.

I hope you can taste a little of betrayal, because only then can you understand the importance of sincerity.

Sorry to say this, but I hope you feel loneliness every day, because only then will you understand that friends are not something you take for granted and need to be kept.

I hope you can encounter bad luck a few times, because only then will you understand the meaning of luck in life, so that you humbly understand that your success is probably due to luck, and that the failure of others is not deserved.

And when you fail, and there will be many more from now on, your opponents will mock and laugh at your suffering. Only then will you understand how important it is to have good form.

I hope you get ignored sometimes so you will understand how important it is to learn respect and listen. And I hope you will learn enough pain to learn compassion.

Whether we hope for these things or not, they will eventually happen in your life. Whether you can absorb the teachings or reap anything from them depends on whether you can see the lessons in your suffering or not."

He also told the children that success comes from those who are fearless. "If you fail, get up and try again. If you fail a second time, get up and try again.

And if you fail again – it might be time to think about doing something else."

The judge gave the children a valuable lesson in facing a harsh life.

The Chief Justice also advised the younger generation not to be too complacent with themselves, not to just be themselves. "Sometimes, you should not be yourself. You have to become better," he said.

Mr Roberts says suffering can make us better people if we stay calm. Calm allows us to have a thoughtful approach, rather than just a "get it done" attitude.

At the end of his speech, he quoted the Greek philosopher Socrates: "A meaningless life is a life not worth living."

Roberts' speech ended with a standing ovation. His message was direct and heartfelt, coming from the heart of a father hoping his son would grow up to be more mature and ready to face the challenges.

John Roberts is famous for being a highly educated person, having graduated from Harvard Law School. Associated with the image of power and seriousness in the court, but he is a very warm and profound father.

The important role of fathers in the growth of their children

In a child's growth, the father plays a role in shaping principles, reason, strength and discipline.

In a family, a mother's love often gives children faith and the value of kindness, while a father's love is expressed through discipline and strength. Illustrative photo

The father is an example of raising children with a sense of responsibility.

"Dear Little Friend" (English name: Left Right), a Chinese TV series that has been causing a stir in recent days with the theme of fatherhood.

In the movie, the male character Tieu Lo was born into a family of divorced parents at a young age, with his mother raising two children alone.

Since childhood, Tieu Lo has depended on his mother. After getting married, he became a man indifferent to family responsibilities.

A study conducted by Beijing General Hospital has shown that, in fact, behavioral problems in children's growth and development are closely related to their fathers.

When children lack a father while growing up, their hearts lack a sense of strength and security.

This damage makes children lack the courage to face the ups and downs of life, have difficulty developing a sense of responsibility, and tend to choose to escape.

In a family, if the father does not teach his children, especially sons, how to be responsible and become a good man, the child will suffer losses in marriage or career in the future.

The father is the embodiment of reason and discipline in the family.

A psychological study shows that the presence of a father is beneficial in preventing a "closed relationship" from forming between mother and child, and helps to transition to an "open three-way relationship" and promote children's development.

In a family, a mother's love is often unconditional, giving children faith and the value of kindness in life.

Meanwhile, a father's love is conditional, expressed through discipline and strength.

When a child's behavior does not meet the requirements of the general rules, the father will correct, discipline, and discipline the child.

Recently, the program "First Lesson", produced by China's CCTV, invited a graduate student from Peking University to share about his father's influence on him.

The guest said that when he was in middle school, his studies declined due to his gaming addiction. His mother told him not to do anything but cry.

At times, he skipped school to play games. Eventually, his father had to stop working and take his son back to the countryside.

To set an example for his children, his father does not use his cell phone in front of them, nor does he watch TV.

While his son was studying, he read books. The father accompanied his son throughout his high school years, discussing with him knowledge, life perspectives...

After many years of effort, the young man finally gave up gaming and passed his studies.

In 2021, the Chinese Ministry of Education conducted a survey on children through different stages and found that children aged 5-9 responded better to their mothers' teachings than their fathers.

However, when they are in third grade and above, children respond better to their father's teachings than their mother's.

Therefore, if during this period the father's role is not affirmed, children easily ignore the essential rules.

Father is a companion for children on the road of life

While the mother is "weak", the father has greater natural strength, thus taking on a richer role than the mother.

The father's role as a companion has a great influence on children, from childhood to adulthood.

Tran Hung Dung, a boy from Hainan, China, was diagnosed with autism.

At the age of 5, his father hired a swimming coach to teach him how to swim, but the coach quit after only a few lessons.

Having no other choice, Mr. Tran trained his special son himself.

With the support of his father, Tran Hung Dung won five gold medals in the 11th National Paralympics in China as an adult.

Up to now, despite being autistic, Tran Hung Dung can go to the market alone and is loved by everyone.

Many audiences commented that his strength is thanks to the strength and courage his father passed on to him, while accompanying him.

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