How to prevent teenagers from doing stupid things?

Medical and psychological experts say that parents should listen to their children more.

"I wish that the moment I open my heart to share, my parents will listen to me and not scold me right away.

When your child has calmed down, please give him/her feedback on the things he/she has not done well. No matter how busy you are with work, please spare some time for us," N. shared her wish.

According to Dr. Dieu Vinh, in children aged 10-18, sex hormones are secreted, creating changes in the child's body shape and psychology.

Children become very sensitive and easily influenced by their surroundings such as the words and actions of family members, friends, teachers...

At this age, children want to assert themselves, want to make their own decisions like adults, but their experience is not enough, so when criticized by adults, children are easily "hurt" emotionally.

Children will feel unshared, feel stuck, bored, and easily act impulsively and foolishly... When children feel insecure, they need to be understood and sympathized with even more.

Dr. Dieu Vinh also believes that children in urban areas are at high risk of mental illness. Children are under pressure from studying, from social networks... Many children go to school from early morning until late at night.

There are children who study so much that they cannot eat and come home very tired. If parents do not share and create more pressure, children will easily have psychological problems.

In addition, children have very little time to play, talk with relatives and friends, they also have little time to exercise , are less close to nature, have less healthy entertainment... With the current lifestyle, children cannot balance their lives and are easily stressed.

Children who watch a lot of TV are also influenced by a lot of information on social networks, especially bad information.

Doctor Dieu Vinh advises parents to be responsible, love their children more, spend time listening and understanding their children, and not impose their own ideas on them.

Encourage children to play in groups, play sports, learn subjects like piano, drawing... so they can relax and relieve stress in life.

Dr. Ngo Xuan Diep, Department of Psychology, University of Social Sciences and Humanities, Ho Chi Minh City, said that currently, children's education has changed a lot compared to previous generations.

In addition to education from family and school, children are now receiving education from information on social networks. Children do not receive information in an imposed way as before but want to be liberated.

Meanwhile, the values and perspectives of parents are shaped many years ago. When it comes to an issue, the two generations have different ways of thinking, but parents often want to impose their thoughts on their children, making them feel misunderstood and unshared...

In particular, during puberty, children are prone to negative emotions. In addition, children are also under other pressures such as academic pressure. Children only want their parents to listen, understand and let them decide...

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