Understanding father with unspoken love

A father's love is often hidden deep within his quiet exterior.

Behind his usual calm appearance, a father always gives his children abundant love, silently cares for them, protects them, and is willing to sacrifice to give them the best things without expecting anything in return.

How many loving things are there that dad doesn't say?

Every time Uyen Phuong (27 years old, Ho Chi Minh City) comes home late after filming a commercial, she sees her father sitting in the living room watching TV. As soon as she enters the house, her father turns off the lights and goes into the bedroom.

In her memory, her father was always a strict and uncommunicative person. So from childhood to adulthood, she seemed to have no habit of sharing and confiding in him.

"Actually, sometimes I wonder if the reason why I come home late and see my father is because he stays up to wait for me. But instead of asking me gently, my father often nags and gets annoyed that I come home late. So I suppress that thought and still can't be comfortable with him" - Uyen Phuong confided.

Having just moved out on her own for over a month, Tu Anh (30 years old, Hanoi ) recalls her arduous journey to convince her parents to agree to moving out.

"Before moving house, my father nagged every day, "Why does a single girl have to live on her own?", "Living on her own makes it easier to hang out and have fun, right?". At that time, I was under a lot of pressure to convince my father," Tu Anh recalled.

Although we know that love is not just in words, but because of the heavy responsibility, sometimes fathers gradually become less verbal, afraid to express their feelings to their children, leaving a void of love in each person. Over the years, those distances gradually create an "invisible wall" between father and child.

But with just small changes, we can completely erase this distance and become closer to and love our "hero" more.

Be proactive to understand and bridge the gap between father and son

"Once I heard my mother tell me that every night when I came home late, my father would walk back and forth, stand up and sit down, then come in and ask my mother, "When will Phuong come home?" When he saw my footsteps in front of the door, he would pretend to sit and watch TV as if he didn't care. After hearing that, I suddenly felt very guilty towards my father," Uyen Phuong said.

After talking with her mother, she decided to temporarily put aside all her worries and concerns to spend time coming home to have dinner with the whole family, because that was the opportunity for her to proactively share more with her father. Thanks to that, the warm daily meal became a "golden" time for father and daughter to focus on each other, thereby increasing their bond.

If the geographical distance prevents us from going home often, let's take the initiative to text our father. Just a text message saying "how are you, dad" will surely make him very happy. These small actions can help strengthen the bond between father and child.

"Since I saw my dad's sweaty back while helping me move, I suddenly realized how careless I had been all this time. Even though he was strict, he was actually just worried about his daughter living alone.

Since then, every few days I texted my dad, came home for dinner on the weekends, and my parents even came to my new house to watch me show off my cooking skills. At that moment, I suddenly realized that my parents always loved me, and I just needed to pay a little attention to feel that love," Tu Anh excitedly shared.

When we are proactive, we can understand more about the past, about the passions, about the difficulties our father has gone through and love him more.

From understanding, we can turn into other acts of expressing affection such as giving a gift that suits the father's interests on special occasions such as his birthday or Father's Day. A classic, elegant watch or a ring with a delicate design are perfect choices to express sincere gratitude to a beloved father.

Not only that, watches or jewelry are also everyday items that have long-lasting value, and can help fathers record unforgettable memories between father and child.

Understanding the difficulties in family relationships in the context of modern life, PNJ accompanies Vietnamese families on the journey to strengthen the emotional ties between loved ones.

Through inspirational stories, or delicate, meaningful jewelry, PNJ wishes to become a bridge to encourage parents and children to truly connect with each other. From there, each of us will be more aware to cultivate love, so that all relationships, no matter the circumstances, will be closer, more loving through the campaign "Closer to the heart, more love!".

Source: https://tuoitre.vn/thau-hieu-cha-voi-nhung-yeu-thuong-khong-cat-thanh-loi-20240614112629178.htm