Accidentally told wife about ex-lover, shocked to know 'foolish for life'

Current jealousy of ex is a frustrating feeling for men and very tiring to explain - Photo: TRAN MAI

The times of "unreasonable taunts", the endless jealousy, when the current person hears someone talking about their ex, or accidentally scrolls through Facebook and sees that their husband/lover's ex has a happy life.

The 'It's in the past, tell me about it' scam

Thanh - my friend when we go out for coffee and drinks - often tells the story of his "stupidity" when he tells his wife all about his ex-lovers.

Thanh remembers that when they were in love, many times his wife asked about his ex-lover, but he "resolutely refused to tell". During those days, Thanh was repeatedly asked: "Is there anything hidden, shady, or why don't you tell?". But he still maintained his stance: "I came to you and devoted myself to you, my ex-lover is my past, it has nothing to do with our relationship. I hope you respect that".

Those firm and reasonable words stopped his wife's curiosity when they were still in love. Their love was beautiful, without any ups and downs until they got married. Both had stable jobs, and were mature enough to build a peaceful home.

But then it was not wind, but a long storm when "foolishly" believed his wife just asked to know.

"When my wife was pregnant with our first child, we were in a relationship, and she acted spoiled and made me lose my guard. At first, she asked how many ex-lovers I had. I didn't answer, so she said she was just curious for fun, but now that we have a child, we trust each other absolutely," Thanh said.

So Thanh told me that he had five relationships before he met his wife. Somehow, his wife successfully "fed him information" and revealed all five of his ex-lovers in great detail. And even though Thanh no longer had any information about his exes, his wife still found out the Facebook of each one.

From then on, the past slept in Thanh's heart, but woke up in his wife's heart. Every day she went on Facebook to see her husband's ex-lovers. She was "excited" many times when she saw that these ex-lovers were all talented and had extremely fulfilled lives.

"I don't know why she's jealous. She's been jealous since she was pregnant with our first child. Now our second child is 4 years old, my wife still occasionally sends Facebook messages to her ex-lover every time she posts a status or a happy photo. Be foolish once, suffer for life, man," Thanh joked.

Even the jealousy was "thank God" when Thanh's wife realized that she was not as good as her ex-lovers. When the couple had normal problems in life, his wife would sarcastically say: "Well, I'm not as good as your ex-lovers. She must regret marrying this incompetent person."

Thanh once burst out laughing at that unfounded jealousy. His wife saw it and immediately flew into a rage: "I hit the nail on the head, didn't I? You say you don't care about your ex, now you must miss him a lot and regret it a lot."

Thanh said that even with 10 mouths, he still couldn't explain, because no matter what explanation his wife had, she had already given him the answer. Thanh jokingly said that now he had become a hostage in their relationship, not daring to talk back, not daring to argue, because he was too afraid that his wife would bring up her ex.

"Now I obey my wife's every command, but every now and then I get sent a status from my ex with the message , "Looking so good and delicious, I'll probably regret it." To avoid the fire from flaring up, Thanh urgently flatters, invites her out to eat, or immediately gives her a few million...

Advice from people whose current partner is jealous of their ex is not to foolishly tell their current partner about their ex - Photo: TRAN MAI

"You know that girl, right? I know, don't deny it."

Thanh’s story made the whole table laugh, but almost everyone had the same problem. One of his friends was even a journalist. This guy was even more tragic when, when he was in love with his ex, he foolishly used his last name and his lover’s last name as a pen name.

The name is engraved in the readers' hearts and cannot be changed. So every time the rice is burnt, his wife says: "Yes, I cannot reason as well as a great journalist... what a beautiful and meaningful name, so affectionate and loving."

That pen name "suspended" the poor husband's life on the waves of each drifting journey.

Vien told the story of his current lover being jealous of his ex. Vien was the last unmarried person in a group of about a dozen friends. He was just as frustrated as the married men. Vien was handsome and had a good job, so many girls were interested in him.

Now 36 years old, Vien has decided to "marry" his current lover at the end of the year, but the past relationships and rumors are still a headache. Vien's girlfriend is 10 years younger than him, and they met just after returning from the big city to work. Vien said this is the most suitable person he has ever met, and he wants to marry her.

But unfortunately, fate is a joke, no one knows what force pushed Vien's lover to sit opposite her ex-lover and do the same job. So everyone knew and teased her. From here on, the storm was full, Vien's girlfriend "testified" and asked to reveal all her ex-lovers so as "not to be shocked".

What's wrong with being handsome? Even though Vien "honestly confessed" to everyone, his girlfriend works, interacts a lot, and often hears information that "Vien used to know this girl, that girl". Every time like that, his girlfriend texts him asking: "You know that girl, right? I know, don't deny it."

"You guys know, since Tet until now, I have had 6 more ex-lovers from rumors my girlfriend heard," Vien held his head, while his friends laughed.

The whole group started to give Vien advice on how to deal with his girlfriend, how to explain it properly. Because women don’t care about the truth, they care about their intelligence. We sobered up from our beer, discussed until we dispersed and realized that out of 16 of us hanging out together, 14 of us were unreasonably jealous of our exes by our wives and girlfriends. Everyone was frustrated because their current girlfriends were jealous of their exes, even though they didn’t do anything wrong. Everyone was under a lot of pressure from this issue.

What do you think about yourself or your spouse still showing signs of missing your ex? Do you consider interacting with your ex normal? Please share your story and feelings at tto@tuoitre.com.vn. Tuoi Tre Online thanks you.

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