Questions parents often ignore

The achievement-oriented questions "How many points did you get today" are what I often hear and the question "Are you happy studying?" has become rare. The "color" of achievement overwhelms the "color" of joy in studying and has been "accompanying" many students at all levels of education.

As someone who often picks up their children from school, I have often witnessed parents asking about their children's grades upon seeing them.

Parents are beaming when they hear their children get high scores, or more accurately, perfect 10s. There are cases where students who get 9s can still be "scolded" because for some parents, that is a low score. Some even show disappointment, criticize, and scold their children for getting low scores in front of many other parents.

Because they only care about certificates and the title of "all-round" excellent students, many parents put a lot of pressure on their children, stealing their childhood by only burying their heads in books.

When picking up their children, parents should ask "Did you have fun at school today?" instead of asking about their grades.

As a high school teacher, I am also very sad when some students like to participate in sports and cultural activities in and out of school but their parents forbid them. They do not want their children to participate because they are afraid of wasting time and affecting their academic results.

Some students shared with me: "My parents only want me to get high scores and nothing else." When I heard students' confessions, I felt sad because of the concept of scores that many parents have.

As a father, I never ask questions related to grades like: "How many points did you get today?", "How many 10s did you get this semester?"...

Before the final exams of the semester and the year, I do not want my child to feel pressured or "cram" so I advise him to take it easy as usual. I teach him to be proactive in his studies and emphasize that new knowledge is important, not to learn by rote to get high scores.

I want to be the one who motivates my children to study, not the one who puts pressure on them. That's why, almost every day, I ask them: "Did you have fun studying today?" Sometimes they say "okay", but most of the time they say "happy". Just hearing them say happy makes me happy.

We often interact with our children through stories they tell about their lessons and friends at school. At times like this, children are happier when sharing with their parents and parents can act as a friend to listen.

I often advise my children to participate in school activities (except for the excellent student contest which is based on elementary school knowledge) to improve their health, learn lessons of solidarity, know how to handle situations, be responsible for the collective, be ready to participate in social activities to grow up, love each other more...

I am happier when I share with my parents every day at school.

The more activities your children participate in, the more real-life lessons they will learn. This is also a necessary skill. Having fun while learning means learning well, having a real childhood and respecting their development.

"Did you have fun at school today?" is not a boring question that I repeat every day. It is a concern that makes the questioner and the person being asked feel happy and joyful.

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