Wedding gifts demand 'market price': What's wrong with giving away cakes and cookies?

The controversy over wedding gifts may not end yet - Photo: Odyssey

After the article Sending wedding money like 10 years ago, is it reasonable?, there were two opinions. With the story of wedding gifts in the article, many people said that weddings today are no different from business.

But the rest also think that the host should be considered, because they have to pay money, not affection, to the restaurant to have a party for them.

Invite guests to join in the fun, don't invite them to calculate profits and losses.

Thinking that money should not be considered in weddings, what is important is feelings, reader Tran Quang Dinh wondered: "A wedding is a day to share joy with the bride and groom. How can we calculate so meticulously about profits and losses, how much or how little wedding money to give?"

Also wondering, account nguy****@gmail.com asked: "Since when did our country have a culture of having to give money when attending a wedding? It is because of this thinking that many people invite people to weddings indiscriminately, even if they have only met 2-3 times, they still invite people."

This reader cited that in Thailand, very few weddings are held lavishly because they do not have the concept of inviting large numbers of people, and even if invited, there is no obligation to give money as gifts.

Experienced, a person nicknamed Sai Thanh Reader said he once sent 300,000 VND to a friend's wedding and later heard his friend tell others that he had spent 500,000 VND and only "returned" that much. But honestly, this reader said he didn't record how much each person spent so he forgot, but he didn't mean anything by it and was secretly blamed!

"Is it better to calculate profits and losses, currency depreciation, or to celebrate a wedding or do business?", 5 Mi Lat commented. Reader Vu agreed: "If you are more or less calculating, it's best not to go to parties, and if you have a party at home, don't invite others, to save the trouble of calculating."

With over 25 years of experience attending weddings, reader Nguyen Hoang Lan commented that attending weddings is not fun, it wastes time, effort and money. Therefore, if you keep comparing the gift money, it is best not to invite guests, and do not have a grand party.

"Guests have no obligation to contribute to your efforts to make you look good and polished. And you also don't need to go to other people's parties just to invite them back later," this person affirmed.

Feelings are important, but the wedding gift should also be proportional to the amount of money the host spends - Illustration: Pexels

Everyone just comes to have fun, what does the host think?

Responding to the opinion "During the wedding, we honestly never thought about profit or loss" from readers Anh Huy and Kim Cuong, reader Minh Tu replied: "Don't think that anyone who thinks that way is bad. Maybe you have a lot of guests or have a lot of money so you don't have to pay for the wedding, but that's not true for everyone!".

Minh Tu explained: "When a cake is gone, a new cookie is returned. I value you so I congratulate you, because I value you so you congratulate me. This culture exists all over the world , only selfish and stingy people like them think it is pragmatic. Material things do not decide but control feelings."

This reader also believes that the host does not invite guests to the party or pay the restaurant with affection. Therefore, it is necessary to be fair and consider the envelope fee so that we can see each other again in the future.

Agreeing, account thie****@gmail.com expressed: "Many noble people think that comparing wedding gifts before and now is pragmatic. Look at reality, 10 years ago, wedding gifts were 500,000 VND, equivalent to nearly 2 taels of gold. Today, wedding gifts are still 500,000 VND, which is less than 1 tael of gold. How can that be acceptable?".

Source: https://tuoitre.vn/mung-cuoi-doi-theo-gia-thi-truong-banh-it-di-banh-quy-lai-co-gi-sai-20240811144630978.htm