No flowers, no gifts on any holiday: No 'goods', no 'heart'

Dịp lễ quanh năm là cơ hội nói lời yêu thương - Ảnh: QUANG ĐỊNH — Holidays are a year-round opportunity to express love - Photo: QUANG DINH

With the development of social networks, holidays and anniversaries are more and more popular: New Year, Lunar New Year, February 14, March 8, October 20, Christmas, anniversary, wedding day, birthday are some occasions to give flowers, gifts, cakes.

Other occasions such as Hung Kings' Commemoration Day, April 30, September 2 or God of Wealth Day have also become occasions for couples to express their love. Some women even "ask for gifts" and post their account numbers online on International Children's Day, June 1.

Perhaps that's why, before Tet, netizens also spread a joke, saying that any guy who has a girlfriend but is financially weak should try to break up before Tet, because first they have to give lucky money, then February 14, then March 8.

If your lover's birthday falls around this time, you can't manage it. Even if you have money, you can't think of enough gifts. The best thing is to break up and get back together in a few months. Of course, that's just a joke.

On the negative side, the pressure to have flowers and gifts makes holidays and anniversaries become materialistic, bland, and unpleasant.

However, there are many benefits to celebrating holidays and anniversaries.

Every holiday is an opportunity for people to express their feelings for each other, remind each other of their care for their lovers and spouses.

During these days, people will easily say words of love, words of thanks and specific actions for the ones they love.

These are also opportunities to express feelings to secret admirers, and for people in love to come together.

Tặng hoa, tặng quà là trao tặng yêu thương - Ảnh: QUANG ĐỊNH — Giving flowers and gifts is giving love - Photo: QUANG DINH

Giving love through words, actions, flowers or gifts is not only for the recipient, but also for those who love and care for her such as family, friends... not to show off or boast. It is to let them see that she is loved, to make them feel more secure when she is by your side.

You don't have to celebrate every holiday of the year. But if you keep silent about her birthday, it's not okay.

There is also a story about a group of children being given candy, but there was not enough for everyone, so one child volunteered to not take any candy. From there comes the saying, "Children who understand, do not get candy."

Some women sympathize with their husbands and boyfriends and say that they don’t like flowers and don’t need gifts, so they don’t get any. If they meet a guy who is considerate and thoughtful, they will still give them gifts or organize some activities for both of them to enjoy. Otherwise, it goes on like that year after year.

When I see women say "My husband never gives me flowers or gifts, but he loves me very much", I really don't know what he loves?!

My wife likes flowers, I don't like giving flowers. I buy flowers and plants around the house and give them to her by taking care of them. My wife has never celebrated a birthday. Since we met, I have celebrated one for her every year. On our anniversary, I just post pictures on Facebook. On other holidays, sometimes I buy clothes, shoes, sometimes I go to the movies, sometimes I just buy a new hair clip. When I have free time, I walk around the streets watching people celebrate, otherwise I stay at home and talk to each other.

I show my wife how much I care about her by paying attention to what she really likes and what holidays she likes to celebrate the most. She shows her care for me by cutting out the less important days and proactively planning how we will celebrate.

If you are young, dynamic, and trendy, you can "follow" every holiday, anniversary, or create many other occasions for fun. If not, you can choose a few days that are truly meaningful to both of you to show some special feelings for each other.

Little money and much heart is fine, but without "money", where is "heart"?

Every holiday or anniversary is a good occasion to express affection, to rekindle love and to look back and see how much you love that person.

Hope everyone enjoys the holidays, don't let anyone feel pressured, don't let anyone feel sad, but let everyone feel the most complete love.

What do you think about showing off joy and happiness on social networks? In your opinion, should we keep our happiness to ourselves and our loved ones? Please share your views at tto@tuoitre.com.vn. Tuoi Tre Online thanks you.

Khi tặng hoa, quà trong ngày 8-3 là nghĩa vụ

Giving flowers and gifts on March 8 is an obligation.

On March 8, why are there husbands who give their wives flowers and gifts but their wives are still angry, and there are also men who never give their wives flowers or gifts but their wives are still happy and filled with happiness? Do women really need gifts on March 8 or do they need something else?

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