The photo of his mother's bedroom during the 3 years her son was away made him not dare to bring his girlfriend home to meet his parents.

"After 3 years of working far away from home, I planned to bring my girlfriend home to meet my family next week, but now I see this scene," he shared.

Recently on the social networking forum Weibo, a young man posted a photo of his mother's bedroom and asked for advice from the online community. Under the comment section, the young man posted a series of photos of the living room, kitchen,... also in a similar messy state, piled with similar things. At first glance, many people discussed and even gave conflicting comments.

The photo of mom's bedroom is full of unnecessary things, shirts, bags.... not neatly put away.

“After 3 years of working away from home, I planned to bring my girlfriend home to meet my family next week, but now I see this scene…. Everyone, please don’t blame my mother, I used a secondary account to post here to see if anyone has experience cleaning the house or has a way to rearrange it, because there are so many I don’t know where to start.

My mother has 'hoarding disorder' - she stores things, has difficulty throwing away things that have no use... Moreover, my mother is also regretful so she almost never dares to throw anything away. For example, a torn and worn plastic bag that she still wants to keep for trash...," the young man shared.

He said that 4 years ago, his father passed away due to a serious illness, so after only 1 year he had to go abroad to work to earn money, leaving his mother alone at home.

The hoarding disease is getting worse and worse and no one is controlling it, which leads to the house being in the above condition.

“In the past, when I was at home, my father often scolded my mother or I often cleaned and threw things away. I have been working for 3 years now and just came home, but my mother still thinks the house is normal. Every day she wakes up early, busy with farming until late at night, so she probably doesn’t have time to look at the house again,” he added.

Image of a messy house, with many unnecessary items.

The post quickly attracted a lot of attention from the online community, many comments advised the guy to hire a cleaning team which would be more suitable.

“It’s okay to clean it yourself, but it takes a lot of time and won’t get it completely clean. House cleaning services are very popular these days, and the prices are also reasonable,” a netizen commented, giving some suggested websites.

Many people think that the young man should not blame his mother but find a way to solve the problem. Because many people have been in the same situation.

Especially in places like the refrigerator, bedroom… mothers are often frugal, afraid of waste so they don't dare throw things away and if someone tells them something is cheap, they often buy it with the reason "to save it for later use".

Moreover, because they are busy, mothers often do not have much time to clean, or do not put things away so they can be easily found… Over time, this leads to a messy house.

“I feel both angry and sorry”, “It’s okay, just hire someone to clean it up and tell your mom slowly”, “There are cleaning services. You can tell your mom about the harmful effects of leaving the house messy, don’t blame her”,… are some of the comments from netizens.

The young man quickly hired a cleaning team and in just one afternoon, the house was completely clean and spotless.

The bedroom and kitchen in the house after being cleaned.

At first, the mother did not agree to let her boyfriend hire someone to clean the house because she felt sorry for the money and the house was fine. After that, the guy had to persuade her a lot, even expressing his concern: "Don't you think about your son? How can a wife agree to marry into a house like this?". Finally, the mother agreed.

Many people also gave advice to the young man to start by convincing his mother to limit, then give up the habit of hoarding things. But you have to start slowly. For example, now in the house there are two people and there are 30 unused spoons, then throw away 5, then 10 first...

" Don't rush to urge your parents to do this or that, because many parents will get angry. It's like children are teaching their parents. Many people even buy more to make up for it," a netizen shared.

After that, when the house is minimalist, without too much extra stuff, cleaning the house will be easy. You should also help or give compliments for the clean house because of your mother's hand. If you are not at home often, you can call to ask or occasionally hire someone to clean the house once a week or once every two weeks.

Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/buc-anh-phong-ngu-cua-me-suot-3-nam-con-trai-di-vang-khien-anh-khong-dam-dua-nguoi-yeu-ve-ra-mat-172241115101800523.htm