Exam season story: Young people should step into life confidently, because the exam is not a war.

Test scores are just numbers and cannot measure a person's full potential. Let young people step into life confidently and without fear of failure.

Exam scores that do not meet expectations will make many young people disappointed and defeated. (Source: Thanh Nien)

Build a foundation with love and understanding

The exam season has passed, bringing with it a range of emotions, the overwhelming joy of those who passed, the regret of those who almost got their hands on it, and the sadness of those who did not achieve the expected results. When a child fails the exam, or does not achieve the desired results, the most important thing is no longer how many points the child lacks, where the mistake was in the exam, or what the reason for the failure was. More than anything, what is important now is what parents will say, do, and accompany their children so that they can learn a valuable lesson: This door closing does not mean the road ahead is closed.

At the age of forming personal identity, especially in adolescence, failing an exam can deal a heavy blow to their self-esteem and confidence. Under pressure from school, family and social expectations, failing an exam can easily make them label themselves negatively as incompetent, useless, failure, incompetent, inferior to friends... This is the time when they are most vulnerable, weak, sensitive and "fragile".

If parents, out of impatience, frustration, or social prejudice, unintentionally confirm those labels with harsh words, reproachful looks, or cold, distant attitudes, the emotional scars left behind can be much deeper than the scores on paper.

Children will lose more confidence in themselves, in their own abilities, and even feel like they have lost the love of their parents. The fear of failure will haunt them, making them not dare to challenge, not dare to dream, not dare to open their hearts, not have faith in themselves and not dare to reach out. There have been many sad stories related to failing exams, many young people have not overcome the pressure in their early life.

In fact, many great successful people often experience countless failures before they reach the top. From Thomas Edison who failed thousands of times before discovering the filament of the light bulb, to JK Rowling who was rejected by dozens of publishers for her Harry Potter manuscript. The difference between them is not that they never failed, but that they always got up after falling and being rejected and determined not to give up. It is those failures that have tempered their will, sharpened their experience, and helped them realize the right path.

A civilized and understanding education will help your child realize the truth that failure is not the end, but the beginning of success. Parents need to become the first teachers to teach their children about resilience, courage, and the courage to face challenges. Instead of comparing your child with "other people's children", help your child look at himself, identify what he has done well and what needs to be improved.

When your child fails an exam, parents need to be the most solid support, a safe harbor where they can express all their emotions, from disappointment, sadness to anger or fear. Understanding does not come from empty words but from actions. Give your child the opportunity to express all his thoughts and feelings without blaming or disappointing. Show your child that you understand his sadness and that his feelings are completely normal.

In particular, it is necessary to remind your child that an exam cannot measure the value and capacity of a person. Tell them about other strengths that scores cannot show, such as creativity, kindness, communication skills, responsibility, etc.

Let's look back at the process with your child, find out the reasons objectively, and most importantly, find other paths together. Broaden your child's horizons, introduce successful examples from many different paths, new careers, diverse learning opportunities such as vocational training, studying abroad, self-study, developing special skills... Let your child believe that there will always be many paths leading to dreams.

Ready to be an adult

In fact, the current concept of exams is making many young people feel too pressured and tired. Meanwhile, exam scores are just numbers and do not confirm a person's ability. For them to be able to step into life confidently and be successful depends on many factors such as soft skills, problem-solving thinking, adaptability, perseverance, passion and courage to face difficulties.

The core issue now is to remove the pressure that is weighing on students from the education system and social thinking. If education changes its value system and the way people perceive their true abilities, not just through scores but through real abilities, through the process of effort and dedication, the assessment of a person's abilities will also be different and more substantial.

Of course, then the pressure from exams will decrease, the 10th grade entrance exam and high school graduation exam will be easier, because it is not a life and death battle, but just a milestone on the long journey of learning and growing up.

Indeed, an exam cannot measure the value and capacity of a person. Each young person can only truly relieve stress when parents do not expect too much, do not impose too much. Let your children breathe, stumble, learn from their own mistakes. Let your children know that, no matter what the result, they will always have their parents as the most solid support to continue writing their life story. In just a few days, candidates will know the 2025 high school graduation exam results, hopefully there will be no sighs...

Because, there are still many opportunities, many paths for us to take. Failing the exam or not passing the first choice to enter a certain university... it's okay, we can still change, until we find the right thing. You have the right to be wrong, to fail, to try again and will certainly learn many valuable things from that first failure in life.

Failing an exam is not a big deal. Young people - be ready to be an adult, dare to take responsibility for your decisions, for your life and do not be afraid of failure...

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