Confessions of a father with two daughters

What do fathers really think when they have two daughters?

Sharing on Sohu page, Mr. Vuong, living in China, said: “When I see other people’s sons, I feel a little jealous. Many times when I see my daughter at home, my heart is always filled with regret and loss.”

Although today’s young generation no longer places more importance on having sons than daughters, many older people still want to have sons and believe that only sons can “continue the family line”. Therefore, if a family has two daughters in a row, the elders in the family will worry and put pressure on the son and daughter-in-law. Gradually, under family pressure, more and more people want to have sons.

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Mr. Vuong used to love his two daughters very much, but as time passed without a son, he always felt that something was missing. Especially when he saw other families' sons having sons, he felt jealous.

"Thinking about my daughter getting married in the future, I can't help but feel disappointed" - Mr. Vuong said.

Mr. Su, who lives in China, shared: “In my heart, I always wanted to have a son, but reality was against me. I always had an obsession about whether it was influenced by traditional concepts or not. I felt that after having a son in the family, even if I was no longer in this world, the family would still be complete. Perhaps the more you want it, the harder it is to achieve it.”

Besides, many families with only girls are always happy and in agreement.

Mr. Ho, who lives in China, said: “Boys and girls are the same. My two daughters make others jealous. I really don’t understand what era these people who want sons are in and still maintain such outdated traditional concepts. Boys and girls are both flesh and blood. Besides, whether children are filial or not has nothing to do with gender. As long as parents raise their children carefully and accompany them to adulthood, daughters will still be the pride of their parents. But if parents’ concept of raising children is biased, there will be many cases where sons become rebellious and disobedient.”

Mr. Ho has two daughters, one is 20 years old and the other is 15 years old. Our family atmosphere is very harmonious, he and his wife have never had any conflicts because they cannot have a son.

In the societies of East Asian countries, the idea of ​​“preferring sons over daughters” still exists. Every family desires a son to continue the family line, so the pressure is heavy on the women’s shoulders. If they cannot give birth to a son, they will be shunned by their husband’s family, and some girls born do not receive enough love.

However, a study by British scientists has shown that: " Families with 2 daughters are often happier, and fathers are more likely to succeed in their careers." British scientists conducted a survey of 2,116 families. In which families have different girls and boys. But the results of the study showed that families with 2 daughters are often happier and more peaceful because the daughters fight less with each other and are less disruptive. The daughters are also more understanding and obedient.

In reality, not having a son is a weakness in Asian culture, but leaders like Obama, President Putin, former US President George W. Bush... do not try to have sons.

Former US President Barack Obama's family (Photo: Reuters)

Even though he is the most powerful man in America, when he returns home, Obama admits that he is "second only to his wife and two daughters, and only ahead of his dogs." During his trip to Vietnam, when it was explained that Ngoc Hoang Pagoda in Ho Chi Minh City is a place where many people come to pray for a son, Obama replied: "I like girls."

Former US President George Bush has twin daughters Jenna and Barbara (born in 1981). According to Reuters, Mr. Bush once shared that since becoming a father, his life has opened a new page, he has completely quit drinking in a short time. "I think the most important thing for a father is to be a father. Since becoming a father to children, I have only one obligation: to do everything best for my children," Mr. Bush said on the day of receiving the award.

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