Husband and wife apart, still keep close love

When in love and getting married, you must understand your partner and their job - Illustration: QUANG DINH

Geographical distance can easily lead to more sadness than happiness, but many couples living apart still know how to take care of their family.

Mr. Ho Hai and Ms. Kha Tu (living in Binh Thanh District, Ho Chi Minh City) both have light, stable office jobs. He likes challenges, doing the same job over and over again feels like there is no breakthrough, especially financially.

Do you think of me when you are far away?

So Mr. Hai quit his job and followed his friends to buy and sell land and warehouse space in Ba Ria - Vung Tau , Dong Nai, Binh Thuan... At first, she was worried, but because she loved her husband, Ms. Tu encouraged him to try.

The daily routines we had together were now put on hold. No more eating breakfast, drinking coffee, and going to work together. "On days when I sat alone with a plate of rice near the office, tears welled up in my eyes when I thought of him. Where are you now? Have you eaten anything yet? The sun, the rain, the headache and the runny nose are just around the corner...", she confided.

There were times when he sat panting in the middle of the deserted hill, looking towards the cloudy city, worrying that his wife had forgotten to put her raincoat in the trunk. After work, he drove more than a hundred kilometers to be with her. Countless stories of joy, anger, love, and hate poured out over the dinner table.

With a sad voice, Ms. Tran Thi Ha (from Ninh Binh, living in Hai Phong ) said that when she gave birth to her second child, her family had not yet left home, so she had to leave her first son with a neighbor to look after. Her husband was still driving an ocean liner on a scheduled cargo ship to Dubai.

Ms. Ha is a teacher, her husband goes on ocean voyages for 10 months to a year at a time before he can come home to rest.

Strong for each other, give each other more

In the first years of her marriage, Ha often followed her husband's ship's journey on her phone to miss him less. Now she has gotten used to being away from her husband, but she has also felt the reality of living without him, especially when there is an accident.

"I had a high fever in the middle of the night and couldn't go buy medicine. My child was still young. I didn't want to bother anyone, so I called the pharmacy in the morning, but they didn't bring it until evening," she explained. Then, when she had to have an emergency appendectomy, there was no one at home so she signed the surgery papers herself. The doctor had to be very understanding before allowing her to sign.

She was also alone when she gave birth to her second child. Seeing other people's families going out to eat and drink on the weekend, Ha felt sad. She told herself that her husband would come home the next day and the whole family would be happy.

Those are the surging emotions, but the hidden iceberg of the story of a husband and wife living far apart is hard to tell.

Ms. Ha confided: "Marrying a husband who is an ocean liner pilot doesn't require much financial worries, food, clothing, or education for the children. If you have a frugal husband, you'll worry about your wife spending money at home, sometimes saying heartbreaking things: the husband's family bought it, the wife is just a tenant."

The relationship between husband and wife therefore has two sides. The positive side is that husband and wife see each other less so they do not get bored or cold after a long marriage. The negative side is the gossip.

When Ms. Ha goes to work, her colleagues and acquaintances often whisper to each other: "People take the train to so many stops, each stop has a woman, who knows how many wives and children there are." When her husband takes the train, her colleagues say: "When the wife is at home, no one is looking after her, so she "easily has affairs and gives all her money to men."

There is no smoke without fire. However, according to Ha, each person has their own personality. Those who have a womanizing habit will be everywhere and do everything. When you love and marry someone, you have to understand the other half and their work.

In the place where she lives, many women also marry men who work as train drivers or sailors. In her office alone, there are a few teachers. Mrs. Bui Thi Trinh, her mother, has lived with her daughter since she gave birth to her first and second child because her husband's family was short of people. She confided: "Train driving is also a job, if you love it, you will marry it, but having grandparents and relatives nearby is better. It's hard being alone, sometimes your parents in the countryside don't feel secure."

As for Kha Tu, although she is used to her husband working far away, sometimes she feels hurt and sulks. There are times when he is away for 2-3 weeks. She is young and feels sad when her husband is away, but since his business is doing well, she has to accept it.

She believes that despite the distance, the couple still loves and trusts each other. But the garden of happiness also has many rainy days, the fruit on the tree also has many sour fruits, there are times when both of them get "crazy" with each other because they vaguely fear that the other will be moved.

Sometimes, seeing his wife's Facebook page with flirtatious words from colleagues and customers, Mr. Hai gets upset and uneasy. On the contrary, Ms. Tu, after texting for a long time and not seeing her husband replying, also feels "suspicious". She worries that her husband is so handsome and charming that when he goes out, many girls will look at him.

Because he loves his wife, when he works far away, he is very considerate and keeps his distance from the opposite sex. He travels a lot, meets many people, eats out, sleeps in motels and hotels. Wherever he goes, he takes a picture with the room number and address and sends it to Zalo as a tacit notice "husband is innocent, wife can rest assured".

He believes that if couples truly want to keep the fruit of happiness, even if they have little time together, they will know how to take care of and make arrangements for each other.

Source: https://tuoitre.vn/vo-chong-xa-nhau-van-giu-tinh-gan-20241013111702627.htm