Block all parents and relatives on Facebook: No more comments, revealing all private matters!

'Relatives make off-topic comments, which are harmless or reveal family matters. I limit the number of viewers so that the family group doesn't read them to avoid inconvenience.'

Parents always want to connect closely with their children, even on Facebook and Zalo, but this often makes their children hesitant - Photo: WHITE CLOUD

That is what Duy shared when reading the article Not only do children talk timidly, they also block their parents’ Facebook for… peace and quiet. Many readers expressed that there should be privacy and respect for children on social networks.

Set up post viewer restrictions on Facebook

Mr. Duy believes that if you don't get along with strangers online, you can argue and unfriend them. But doing the same with relatives would be considered rude.

According to him, young people can use the feature to limit others from viewing their Facebook status. He does not block or lock the friend feature with relatives, but his Facebook is mainly for friends outside of the family.

He said that there were times when he posted a status and his relatives commented on irrelevant, meaningless things or revealed his family's private affairs. Therefore, he limited the number of viewers so that no one in his family group could read it, to avoid trouble.

Young people today have many hobbies of their own, and are afraid of their parents following them on Facebook - Photo: WHITE CLOUD

"Family text message groups, mainly adults gossip and text all day about things that have nothing to do with them.

There's nothing wrong with turning off notifications to focus on work. If there's a party or something, just mark it (tag) to show," he shared.

Reader An shared that some parents think that they want the best for their children, so they closely monitor their children on Facebook. While their children are chatting with friends online, their parents come in to remind them. At that time, all their friends, teachers, relatives, neighbors... on Facebook all know.

"That's not worth it, it's not showing love. It's ego, thinking of yourself as a good parent, always caring for your child," he commented. Mr. An advised adults to put themselves in their child's shoes to understand the feeling of being reminded like that.

According to him, loving and advising children must be done skillfully, in the right place, at the right time. And we should not use the name of love to tie them down and put them in a difficult situation.

According to Ms. Minh Thu, young people and their parents find it difficult to find common ground on social networks. Young people have different trends, words, and ways of expression than older people.

She said she was bored with the food at the restaurant the day before so she bought sticky rice for breakfast. She took a funny photo and posted it on Facebook complaining about her poverty and hardships.

My aunt in the countryside commented to encourage me that my circumstances are not as good as my friends', so I need to try harder...

In fact, in many cases, children block their parents on Facebook just to keep them from seeing their private thoughts, not to refuse their parents' attention. "In any case, you should consider the situation carefully, don't be quick to condemn," Thanh Tung advised.

Empathizing, Ms. Lan said that her Gen Z colleagues shared that their parents scolded them for any Facebook posts they did not like. She also scolded them for posting photos of herself wearing slightly revealing clothes.

"She is filial, loves her parents very much, is well-behaved and polite... but still blocks her parents when posting. Young people today are different from the past. Trust your children and don't impose old standards on them," she wrote.

Many reasons why parents and children do not get along on Facebook

Living with her daughter who is in college and two grandchildren, hanh****@gmail.com (48 years old) has concluded many reasons why children and grandchildren avoid and distance themselves from their grandparents and parents.

"Children are grown up but many families still care too much, supervise them so strictly that they are confined and lose their freedom. Children cannot bear it and react," she said.

On the contrary, many families do not pay enough attention to their children from a young age. In some homes, children are closer to the maid than their parents. Parents work from morning to night, some come home and then go out drinking, looking for their own pleasure...

Some people take work home or take on extra work because they are worried about their future. "Parents do not have time to meet, talk to their children, ask about their studies or provide necessary education . They do not care to share the joys, sorrows, or difficulties their children encounter."

This reader advised parents to teach their children about love, responsibility, and to set an example for them. "There are children who are so lonely at home that they have to go out and go online to find joy, comfort, encouragement, and help..."

She shared: "Don't want your child to be like you. What you think is good is not necessarily good for your child. Just because you are old, earn a lot of money, have prestige and status doesn't mean you know everything, everything you do is right. And there are some knowledge and experiences that are outdated."

An said he was from the older generation but his 20-year-old nephew was close to him. He asked his parents to let him go out. He respected and encouraged him.

He wrote: "I see you as a friend, I don't interfere with your choices, as long as you're interested. I know that cake is terrible, you want to eat it so I won't stop you. If you try it and find it bad, you'll find something else to eat."

I failed a subject, he consoled me that it was okay. "I also failed a few subjects in college, but you should ask your friends when to take the test again. Studying alone is boring," he encouraged.

He advised parents that in addition to accompanying their children, they should not spread rumors about their children's affairs to others. "Because when it spreads, that will be the last time you hear your children share."

Children are heartless when their parents call but they don't answer the phone.

According to Ms. Minh Thu, when parents contact or call, children need to listen. That is not a disagreement, but a lack of care. If they get sick or have an accident on the road and call but their children do not answer, isn't that the ultimate misfortune?

If you fall down at home alone and your child doesn't pick up, isn't that heartbreaking? "We can stop communicating on social media, but we can't ignore each other in communication."

Reader Nguyen Minh Chau believes that being cared for by parents is a great happiness. "Some people have more than they can eat, others have more than they need. Many orphans wish they had the care of their parents…".

Source: https://tuoitre.vn/chan-het-facebook-cha-me-ho-hang-khoi-binh-luan-qua-lai-lo-het-chuyen-rieng-tu-20241208204630401.htm