I am obsessed with surfing the internet, I am afraid of getting married.

A happy marriage requires effort to cultivate, don't let negative information from the internet influence and create a biased view - Illustration: Q.DINH

Looking at the positive side, negative marriage information can help young people learn from their experiences, learn how to deal with failures and mistakes, and how to build a happy marriage. But a good relationship must be the result of adapting efforts, cultivating with understanding and needing the right skills.

Master DAO THI DUY DUYEN

It is undeniable that there are many other factors at play, but such content easily affects women's psychology, making many of them increasingly hesitant.

Love is fine, marriage is still a matter of thought

27 years old, returned from working in Japan, Ms. T. Linh (30 years old, in Ho Chi Minh City) works as a logistics employee. She said she also dated a few men but it didn't go anywhere. Those who proposed to her all said they wanted to get married quickly. But for her, love is only beautiful when it doesn't lead to marriage.

This is the "experience" she learned from the life mottos of Chinese "big sisters" that she still reads every day online. Therefore, instead of wasting time to find a good man to be her husband, Ms. Linh said she chose work, learning Japanese, and getting additional certificates to help her get promoted.

Although in love, Tham Thuong (24 years old, in Quang Ngai ) admits that articles about love and marriage on the internet have deeply affected her. She and her boyfriend have been in love for quite a long time, and also believe that beautiful love will lead to a perfect marriage.

But watching negative videos about marriage every day makes her wonder: "Will I be lucky enough to have a happy marriage or will it be like the cases I see online? So it's probably best not to get married."

Similarly, Thanh Truc (28 years old, a drug saleswoman in Binh Duong ) said her lover is very good, thoughtful, and financially stable, but she is afraid to get married because she does not have enough trust in marriage.

"If I live alone, I will find someone to keep me company if I fall in love, but if I get married, I will not. I am afraid of having to obey a man, then sacrifice my career and beauty to have children, and sometimes receive contempt and coldness from my husband," said Ms. Truc.

The worrying reality of young people being afraid to get married

According to Master of Psychology Dao Thi Duy Duyen, if a person is influenced by too many negative images about marriage that they read and see online every day, it will significantly affect their perception and thinking. While just paying a little attention will see that there is a lot of positive news around, but often negative things are easier to attract attention and create public opinion, so they affect the psychology of the recipient.

For young people, they often learn about marriage through observation and research on various media or through their parents' marriage. "If they are exposed to negative information and images about marriage, it is difficult to help them imagine a positive and healthy married life. Gradually, negative thoughts about marriage will form in each person" - Ms. Duyen analyzed.

Another psychologist said that when working with many young people, he realized that those who pay attention to negative information and join closed groups that share dark corners face more anxiety or have more false beliefs.

Social networks have algorithms that prioritize the content users search for, so purifying the content accessed on digital platforms should be one of the first steps to re-establishing a balanced life.

Social networks and media have the ability to influence and even direct the perception of beneficiaries. Positively, these stories provide young people with a realistic view of married life, that marriage is not a joke but requires serious preparation.

"However, many people easily amplify negative issues, turning them into threats that easily cause young people to lose faith in love and marriage, which is a worrying thing," he said.

Enjoy a life of freedom and self-reliance

When asked why she seemed to see the prospects of marriage as so bad, Ms. Thanh Truc said she had known many divorce cases around her, watched many movies and even confessions of people with broken marriages, so she had no expectations of getting married and having children. Not to mention, she also considered KOLs, actors, and influencers who lived by the motto "modern women do not need men" as ideal models.

"Save money to travel, take care of my parents, enjoy a free and self-sufficient life. I don't need a house that's too big or a goal that's too far away, just a peaceful life, enjoying the fruits of my labor" - Ms. Truc planned for herself.

Source: https://tuoitre.vn/luot-mang-am-anh-minh-ngai-ket-hon-20240921231317225.htm